My parents and grandparents are buried in a family cemetary and I suppose I shall be also some day. I put flowers on their graves on Memorial Day, as was the tradition when I was a child. Occasionally, on their birthdays or Mother/Father's Day, I will place a single rose on their grave. However, I do not believe in worshipping the grave site as my parents' souls are in heaven and not in the ground. I place flowers there as a symbol of respect and so that others know that they were loved while they were alive. It brings me no relief or less grief to visit the grave. Memories keep them alive in my heart forever.