When I coached, this happened during our regional tournament and I voiced my opinion of it and was treated very poorly over doing that.
As to the other question, our team just had a boy/girl game last night and the girls played second. We actually have a great fan base and have as many fans at the girls as at the boys. It was the second biggest gate of this year, (second to homecoming) and our fans stayed until the end. This is our second double header of the year, at home, and both times our girls played second.