No joke contained in here. Just an old guy who misses his mother. It's nearly 3 years she's been gone. I never imagined my life without her and regrettably took that for granted. Busy with my own life and it's progress, I have many regrets now that she's gone. Now, I don't have any doubt about her knowledge of how deeply I loved her. But when you lose a parent, I suppose you always have regrets. Wish I'd have spent more time with her. Wish I'd have taken advantage of the time and her knowledge of life. And I suppose it's also natural to regret that she can't participate in the events that are occurring now with my family. My oldest, her first and closest grandchild, is a senior and will graduate soon. He's made a college choice and I guess the depth of that was something that I wanted her to share in. I came upstairs last night to find my oldest laying on the couch with his head in the lap of my wife and I suppose it's those things I miss the most. No words need said, just your mom rubbing your head in her lap, and you're really never too old for that.

 

I trust in my Lord and savior that one day we'll be reunited and that's a hope I wouldn't trade for all the world, but if you are still this side of eternity and your parents are as well, take some advice from a guy who wished he could change it, take the time to include your parents in your life. I did, and don't regret it for a second. I wish I had done it more. If you have an estranged relationship with one or both of your parents, suck it up and change it. I know for the 20somethings on this board this may not mean alot, but as I age, and as I see my children age and my dad age, my perspective changes. And I only wish I had had my perspective change sooner. Enjoy your mom. Enjoy your dad. Drink up the knowledge and love they have for you. Sit and listen. Because when that's gone, you'll regret not taking more time, I do.

 

Sorry for the sappy diatribe folks, but I consider my BGP family more than just usernames. You're much more.

That was a very touching, heart felt post, spindoc. Great advice as well. God bless your mom and you.

:cry: That was beautiful, Spindoc.

Thanks, doc...I really appreciated reading that.

Well said Doc!!

Well said my friend. Great advice for all of us, no matter how old we are. :thumb:

Doc,

Thanks. I know how you feel. My mother has been gone now for 5 years and it hurts the same as it did the day she died. I only have one regret in my life and that is moving to Kentucky. I am from Alabama and moved to Kentucky for a better job so that I could provide for my family like I wanted. Wish I had never done it. All I can think of is all the time I missed with my mother. I have now lived in Kentucky longer than I did Alabama. I will never leave Kentucky because my children and grandchildren live here.

Agreed, I often times take for granet how much my parents do care about me. I'm sure your mother would be proud knowing you still care about her that much though.

Well done, spindoc. Thank you!

Very well said Doc, I feel the same way about my dad.

 

I lost him just over 10 years ago. My dad was the Best Man at my wedding, I regret every moment that I could have spent with him that I didn't. The last words my dad said were, "I love you" in a voice so inaudible I couldn't hear what he said but with my ear to his mouth he repeated it and everyone could read his lips...even writing this I have a small tear in the corner of my eye.

Good read Doc!

 

The 25th anniversary of my mother's murder was this past August. It was really tough this year because her father died a couple weeks after the anniversary and he was buried next to her. I live about 7 hours from the cemetery so any time I visit, is very emotionally taxing on me. That crime altered my life, cause had it not happened I'd have never wound up in Kentucky. Definately makes me wonder where I'd be had that not happened.

Nicely said buddy. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about my dad.

No truer words written Doc.

So glad you shared this with us Doc. My dad passed away last September. He was 92 and we had lots of great memories together. My mom is now 84 and not in good health. I bring her down and she will stay a week at a time with us. Eventually she will move in with us, she is just not ready yet to leave her farm. I call her everyday and have for the last 20 years when I moved to Winchester.

Great post Doc. I lost my mom at 60 and my dad at 69. Treasure the moments you have with your parents, even during those times when they drive you crazy.