So I'll be asking my gf to marry me over the Christmas holiday, I know it's proper to ask the father for his daughter's hand in marriage.

 

Personally, I feel this is antiquated and unnecessary seeing how women are no longer considered the property of their fathers until they marry, but I don't make the rules.

 

I have been told by my gf that I should probably ask/talk to him before popping the actual question.

 

He lives 2 hours away and it's not exactly easy to make the trip up their. I have no time during the week, so I would need to go sometime this weekend (while keeping it secret from her) if I were to ask him in person.

 

I would feel much more comfortable doing this sort of thing via e-mail, but I'm not sure how acceptable that is. Not to mention, it's kind of awkward e-mailing or calling him up to schedule some kind of drop-in without giving away what I'm coming there for.

 

Any advice/tips on how I should go about doing this?

 

From the immortal Tom Lehrer:

 

I hold your hand in mine, dear,

I press it to my lips.

I take a healthy bite

From your dainty fingertips.

 

My joy would be complete, dear,

If you were only here,

But still I keep your hand

As a precious souvenir.

I just took her and didn't even think about asking her dad-my Uncle.

I just took her and didn't even think about asking her dad-my Uncle.

:scared:

I just took her and didn't even think about asking her dad-my Uncle.

:eek::eek::eek:

I called and asked my wife's mother and brother for permission (her dad is deceased). I was more nervous asking her mother than I was asking my wife. She lives in North Carolina, so obviously I could not come up with a good enough lie to meet up with her in person, but I would have done it that way if I could have.

I received this email yesterday and thought I would share it...

 

The World's Shortest Fairy Tale….Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl 'Will you marry me?' The girl said, 'NO!' And the guy lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles and raced cars and went fishing and hunting and played golf a lot and drank beer and scotch and left the toilet seat up and farted whenever he wanted. THE END

 

JJ best of luck to you.

My advice is not get married to anyone but an orphan.

I didn't ask but then again we were in our late 20's and both had been on our own for over 10 years.

Musk, I thought that was you in the picture. :lol:

 

Lol, not far off. I have more facial hair now, though.

Text him.

 

:laugh:

I like the texting idea

 

Haha you would.

It would show great respect if you ask in person----your future relationship will be much better for it.

It would show great respect if you ask in person----your future relationship will be much better for it.

 

Or worse if dad does not like you and he says no and you go ahead and ask anyhow.