Heard an interesting conversation during lunch today, where one of my co-workers admitted to "not forgiving" a friend of his for something that happened over 10 years ago! Yet he still considers the other person his friend. I'll admit, I may harbor a grudge for a little bit, not a decade!

 

So, what say you...if you feel a friend "wronged" you somehow, someway...how long would you hold a grudge?

Holding grudges isn't worth it. Just hurts the grudgeholder.

Went into a local hamburger joint at 9:45 (they closed at 10) for a burger. They said they were closed. I said that I'd go someplace else. They told me they were just kidding. I told them I wasn't and left.

 

Never went back. That was at least 8 or 10 years ago.

I’ve never held a grudge.

Oh boy can I hold a grudge.

If a "friend" did something hurtful to me, they really could not have been my friend to begin with, could they? So we likely are not friends anymore.

I've always been an at the point of type guy. The folks that appreciate that approach are dear friends. The ones who are too sensitive to deal with their wrong doing....simply fade away!

 

I don't grudge...i exercise caution! :thumb:

I hold no grudges. But, if after many times of swallowing my pride, or not feeling that I am valued, I will just be done with the person. I don't wish them I'll, I don't feel they owe me anything, and I don't feel I owe them. I don't know how to explain to, but I'm just done. I'm not angry or anything. I just feel nothing. Like papa, if I experience bad customer service, I may choose not to return. But that is a long shot. Like with people, I'll usually give places multiple opportunities.

I had a friend (Don) during our senior year in high school who lent his car to another friend (Mike) one day. It was an older, but pretty sweet, muscle car. Mike ended up trying to do a burnout with it, lost control, and wrecked it. He wasn't hurt, but the car was severely damaged. Even though Don got some money from the Mike's insurance company, it couldn't replace the car he had worked on himself over the past 3 or 4 years.

 

While he was certainly glad Mike was okay, I think it was a year or two until he got over losing that car.

I don't hold grudges because I just don't let someone else control me. I take very little personally.

Went into a local hamburger joint at 9:45 (they closed at 10) for a burger. They said they were closed. I said that I'd go someplace else. They told me they were just kidding. I told them I wasn't and left.

 

Never went back. That was at least 8 or 10 years ago.

That's not a grudge that's stubbornness.

Edited November 1, 20178 yr by Bengal Maniac

On subject...just heard " holding a grudge is a stone in your heart ! "

There are still people that bullied me in high school that I'm hoping to catch out sometime.

Oh boy can I hold a grudge.

 

It’s much different for women.

I'm trying to recall a passage from The Sermon on the Mount, by Emmet Fox. Something along the lines of, "Holding onto anger (resentment) is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die."

 

I try to clean my slate by the end of the day. I'm rarely entirely successful, but holding onto a grudge is a luxury I can't afford. Oftentimes, disengaging from a person, place or thing, speeds that process along.