BTW' date=' I know I will be a big softy when it comes to my kids, especially if I have a daughter. :lol2:[/quote']

 

It is no different with a son.

It is no different with a son.

 

I'm sure.

This is gonna turn into a debate that rivals the "All A" debate I feel...

 

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LRCW, I'm really sorry. I'm sure it makes it doubly hard that she truly did work so hard and put in the necessary effort to get better, yet still fell short. Like others have said, it will certainly be a life lesson that she'll learn from, but that doesn't make it any more sad (for her or you) at this point. I know this, she has a great Dad and that is worth a lot more in the long run than a 7th grade volleyball season.

I talked to a coach who has to cut and he has what I thought was a great system. Kid comes in. Finds out and gets an evaluation. He then goes out the other door so that he doesn't have to go back to where every other kid is. He gets in his car and goes home to celebrate or cry.

 

Seemed like a darn good way of handling it.

My daughter went through this last year, and I will say it sucked when she was going through it. She decided to not even tryout for soccer even though she had played it all her life. The coach does not sub much and she did not want to practice all the time and never play. I told her she had to do something else and she chose Cross Country. It has been great, she is happy, the team atmosphere is great and she actually ran on the team down state and their team won the championship. I knew nothing about XC before last year and now I love the sport. Things will get better!

A sign taped to a school window unceremoniously ended Habib's basketball ambitions roughly around the sixth grade.

A sign taped to a school window unceremoniously ended Habib's basketball ambitions roughly around the sixth grade.

 

Mine too. At the time I thought "what the heck" but looking back I was terrible (still am actually).

Mine too. At the time I thought "what the heck" but looking back I was terrible (still am actually).

 

Parents never,ever think so though.

I drive past a complex everyday with 100 or so playing Coach Pitch, Little League or football at any given time during the year. By the time Middle and High School rolls around there is barely enough to fill the various teams. Kids figure things out in Middle School and especially high school in what they're good at and what they enjoy and makes them happy.

I didn't know some kids took getting cut so hard until a couple of seasons ago.

 

Had a kid, 6th grader at the time, that had been practicing with us but tried out for the county middle school team. Got cut, and cut fairly early in the process. His mom called me up later in the day after cuts, asking if he could still come out and play for us. Of course I said yes. She said he had come home just so upset and crying, and that in turn made her upset and she had been crying with him. Many of his buddies made the team, and he felt like he was getting left behind and just loved basketball so much. I told her not to worry, he would forget about the county ms basketball team one we started playing. And that's pretty much what happened.

 

Flash forward to 7th grade last year. Kid again goes out for county ms basketball team...once again gets cut. Isn't nearly as upset because he enjoyed playing so much with us and actually got to play a lot. Had he made the ms team his 6th grade year he probably, literally would have never touched the floor in games. His mom tells me it's probably best he didn't make it and in a way she was glad he didn't since he actually gets a chance to play with us. So, it all worked out in the end for him. And that's the way it is with a lot of our kids. They get the chance with us that they didn't or wouldn't have gotten with the county middle school.

Ugh we had a similar situation with one of our kids, and I’m still bitter 5 years later (LOL just kidding, sortof).

 

Wanted to mention that seventh grade is also a great year for kids to begin golf.

 

We knew very little about golf but daughter decided to take it up in 7th grade… ended up MVP in HS!! Who knew??

 

Hang in there, sending a prayer to your daughter, but I agree... when one door closes another opens!

Junior high is such a tough age for both boys and girls. It can be so painful for kids and their parents. I have been where you are now, and I have to admit, I still feel pain when I think about it, though my child has left it far behind.

 

Kids change a lot physically from 7th grade to 9th grade. If she truly loves volley ball, tell her to keep at it. Regardless, whatever path she chooses, she will be better at it because she knows what it is to fail and will work even harder to succeed.

 

There was a boy in my son's class who got cut from the basketball team his freshman, sophomore, and junior years. He loved basketball and worked really hard, but just lacked size. He was insistent on trying out his senior year, joking that he "wanted to make that coach look me in the eye and cut me 4 times." Well, he made the team and actually got playing time his senior year. I always loved that kid and admired his rare perseverance. Seven years later, he is still doing great!

Junior high is such a tough age for both boys and girls. It can be so painful for kids and their parents. I have been where you are now, and I have to admit, I still feel pain when I think about it, though my child has left it far behind.

 

Kids change a lot physically from 7th grade to 9th grade. If she truly loves volley ball, tell her to keep at it. Regardless, whatever path she chooses, she will be better at it because she knows what it is to fail and will work even harder to succeed.

 

There was a boy in my son's class who got cut from the basketball team his freshman, sophomore, and junior years. He loved basketball and worked really hard, but just lacked size. He was insistent on trying out his senior year, joking that he "wanted to make that coach look me in the eye and cut me 4 times." Well, he made the team and actually got playing time his senior year. I always loved that kid and admired his rare perseverance. Seven years later, he is still doing great!

 

There was a kid at Dixie in the past that if I remember correctly was cut grades 9-11. Ended up making it his senior year (it did help he was 7 feet tall). Played a lot and even went to college to play at Mt Vernon Nazarene in Ohio. Turned down a few bigger offers so he could go to Mt Vernon and study religion. After college he had a European offer (low level) but turned it down as well so he could become a minister which is what he wanted.

 

Hard work and determination pays off.

If she likes to run encourage the Cross-country and Track and Field route. Volleyball is a tough sport numbers-wise. By the time she is a Jr or Sr maybe 4 girls in her class make the team and they are usually ones who have been playing since 1st grade or are exceptionally tall.

With track it can be more God-given talent and hard work. The distances can be 100 meters to 3200 meters. Or maybe she will excel at hurdles or high jump or pole vault or shot put. Lots of options with relay teams etc. Find someone who can help her with how to workout and maybe teach her how to hurdle or throw a discus.

@LRCW nice read in the Enquirer this morning. Ryan Custer of Elder just verbally committed to Wright State. The 6'6" forward was cut his freshman year.