@LRCW nice read in the Enquirer this morning. Ryan Custer of Elder just verbally committed to Wright State. The 6'6" forward was cut his freshman year.

 

Thanks. I'll have to check that out, and let my daughter read it was well.

Well today I got to experience the opposite end of the spectrum as my girl called me, excited to tell me she had made the 7th grade basketball team. I'm proud of her for making the team, but more proud that she had the courage to go out for another sport knowing she could have experienced the same disappointment she did 4 months ago.

Edited October 23, 201510 yr by LRCW

Well today I got to experience the opposite end of the spectrum as my girl called me excited to tell me she had made the 7th grade basketball team. I'm proud of her for making the team, but more proud that she had the courage to go out for another sport knowing she could have experienced the same disappointment she did 4 months ago.

That is wonderful news!

Than seeing your child hurting. My girl fell in love with volleyball in gym class last year, and decided she wanted to try out for the 7th grade volleyball team this year. She went to open gym all last spring, and then again this summer when it picked back up. She worked so hard it. She would be out in the street every spare moment hitting the ball with me, her mom or brother. They posted the list of the girls who had made it yesterday. Chloe usually hides her emotions pretty well, unlike her dad, but yesterday she let them go. It definitely hurt this old dad seeing his baby girl hurting that way. We went to her favorite restaurant for lunch yesterday, and then a little retail shopping to help ease her pain a little bit. I know it's part of growing up, and she'll experience many of those along the way, but I hope it's a long time before she has to experience something like that again.

Actually went through this with my daughter when she was in the eighth grade . A good grade school player she tried out with a local J.O. team run by a couple of sisters and did not make the cut . Another father was experiencing the same situation with his daughter ,and he decided to form his own J.O. team . We put an ad in the paper for tryouts and about 12 girls showed up . They became the team we formed and were from all over Northern Ky. The coach that we hired was my niece who was a player for Mount St. Joes at the time . The team was run on a shoestring but the girls had fun and when The team finally won a tournament trophy at Munciana they were ecstatic .

The next year she tried out for her High School squad and made the freshman team . The J.V.coach was one of the sisters who cut her during the tryouts for the J.O. team 6 months before . When the freshman season was over she was moved up to the J.V. team and the next year( Sophomore ) in the middle of the J.V. season she was moved up to the varsity and had a pretty good High School career . She was recruited by a local college and played there for 3 years until studies took precedent over sports .

After college she was hired as the freshman coach at her high school and then when the head coach resigned after 20+ years the J.V. coach the one who cut her in J.O. became the varsity coach and my daughter became the J.V. coach . My daughter had to resign from High School coaching after giving birth to her second child but she still coaches J.O. ball . Oh and she became great friends with the two sisters who cut her from that J.O. team and still is .

I guess the moral of this story is she never gave up no matter how hard she had been disappointed , something good happened to her in the end .

So if your daughter has her heart set on playing volleyball don't give up she will have success in the end . There will always be a team that will want her .

Edited October 24, 201510 yr by KyTmcNcc

I just don't get that method. Spare me the "oh it toughens them up for life" speech.

 

Email/text the "yes/no" to each student so they do not have to walk out of school crying.

I always thought it to be a gutless move to not tell them face to face. I had to make cuts once, I told each parent/kid individually........was the hardest thing I ever did.

It is a tough situation , I have two boys, one was very athletic, played two sports, earned a athletic scholarship. My younger one, who idolized the older one, just never could get to that level. The good lord just didn't make that his forte, he had two speeds-slow and stop. He went thru some big heartbreaks because in his mind he wanted to be just like big brother, but it wasn't in his cards.

Now that most of that is behind him, he is a well-rounded young man with a whole lot going for him.

Everyone is dealt a different hand in life, its how you put your cards together determines the outcome.