If you are going to have tryouts for kids that young, you at least need to tell them why they didn't make the team, and give them areas to work on for next year.

BTW, I know I will be a big softy when it comes to my kids, especially if I have a daughter. :lol2:

BTW, I know I will be a big softy when it comes to my kids, especially if I have a daughter. :lol2:

 

It's even worse once they are here. :lol2:

I'll never forget the day my daughter didn't make the Ryle Varsity Cheerleading team, especially when she was on the squad the year before.

 

I can't remember what was worse, seeing the disappointment in her tears or the way her "friends" in the squad treated her after she got cut. I never knew girls could be so cruel.

 

Really? The cheerleading "IN Crowd" is vicious.

I just don't get that method. Spare me the "oh it toughens them up for life" speech.

 

Email/text the "yes/no" to each student so they do not have to walk out of school crying.

 

So you would be against face to face yes/no as well?

I have been through it as a player and a parent... It Sucks!! I ended picking up with another team and drove in the run that invoked the 10 run rule to end the game against the team that cut me.... For my son it opened him up to another sport he loves... Basketball.. I think as a parent it hurts worse. But it's a good lesson to learn early in life

She loves to run, and we talked about going out for the Cross Country team this spring. She seemed to like that idea.

Great advice by doomer. Excellent response from a great dad! It sounds like the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

My youngest son got cut from basketball in 6th grade, after playing, and being one of the better kids in elementary school (and I mean that relatively....being one of the better kids doesn't mean he was a great player). Ended up wrestling.. 2 years later as an 8th grader, made the KY national team and got a varsity letter wrestling in high school. Getting cut was one of the best things that ever happened to him. Even though I felt like he should have made the team, at best he would have been the 2nd or 3rd guy off the bench, and would have probably got cut somewhere down the road in high school. It may take some trial and error, but if she uses this as motivation to find something she likes and is really good at, all will be good.

 

I'm with Clyde...I hate it when coaches just post lists of who made it. It's lazy, and each kid deserves some feedback.

Coach Randy Anderson said it best after try outs to everyone as a group before it was announced who made it, something along these lines, "We aren't saying no, we are simply saying not right now. We hope all of you go home and work on your games. If you have any questions or areas where you might need guidance on what you need to work on, please feel free to ask".

 

Not many better people out there than Randy Anderson

Yep, tough when your kids hurt. Wish you could take it for them.

 

This times eleventy billion.

 

I hate hearing it LRCW, but the way you tried to help ease her pain is good IMO. If anything, it communicates to her that you're hurting because she's hurting and you want to make it better. In the long run, I think she'll remember that more than she'll remember not making the team.

Really? The cheerleading "IN Crowd" is vicious.

Yes they are, especially when the one who was the biggest....witch...was a neighbor and her best friend the year before. But what comes around goes around paid off the following year. Cooper HS opened and my daughter made the varsity squad, and the girl who treated her like dirt who was her "BFF" just the year before also had to attend Cooper and made the squad and ended up being kicked off the team for breaking rules.

 

The In Crowd can be viscous for sure.

Than seeing your child hurting. My girl fell in love with volleyball in gym class last year, and decided she wanted to try out for the 7th grade volleyball team this year. She went to open gym all last spring, and then again this summer when it picked back up. She worked so hard it. She would be out in the street every spare moment hitting the ball with me, her mom or brother. They posted the list of the girls who had made it yesterday. Chloe usually hides her emotions pretty well, unlike her dad, but yesterday she let them go. It definitely hurt this old dad seeing his baby girl hurting that way. We went to her favorite restaurant for lunch yesterday, and then a little retail shopping to help ease her pain a little bit. I know it's part of growing up, and she'll experience many of those along the way, but I hope it's a long time before she has to experience something like that again.

 

Tough break.

 

I, like some others have posted, have been there before.....happened to me twice!!! It will do one of two things.....make her work harder for the next season or move on to something different.

Hellbird, Cheerleading IS NOT a sport. :lol2:

I will echo the XC thought (and remember that XC is a fall sport). Daughter did that and track for several years. Not a spectacular athlete by any stretch, but started in middle school and wound up with a dozen varsity letters. Wouldn't have traded it for the world.

 

And as a wise friend often said, "This too shall pass".

Hellbird, Cheerleading IS NOT a sport. :lol2:

 

This is gonna turn into a debate that rivals the "All A" debate I feel...