April 12, 20179 yr Or.... at age 18, you have a back injury and buy some pain pills from a guy you know. On your way home, you get pulled over and the cops find those pills and charge you with felony possession with intent to distribute. You haven't even graduated from high school yet and you're on your way to jail and facing 3-5 years because you chose to self medicate. You eventually spend a year in jail and now, at age 22 you are an upstanding citizen with a steady job and no pill problem. Is it fair to have a felony conviction hanging over your head for the rest of your life for that one mistake?! A mistake and committing a crime are different things.
April 12, 20179 yr Life indeed is a tough crowd. This thread repeatedly makes me think of a quote I try to keep in the forefront, particularly as it relates to young people: “Don’t judge my story based on the chapter you walked in on.”
April 12, 20179 yr Didn't say it made him a bad person. It does however make him a person that has to deal with the consequences of his actions. Which perhaps makes him dependent on the system for the rest of their life, because it's nearly impossible to rise above a mistake you made. I get holding people accountable for their actions. But our system can be so punitive, especially to those who don't have the means to defend themselves. Our judicial system feeds our welfare system every complains about.
April 17, 20179 yr It may take a while, and it'll absolutely take a lot of hard work, but he'll be able to get past it. You said he's got a steady job now, so it hasn't hindered him from being able to support himself, right? IMO, most employers aren't going to treat a drug charge felony at 18 the same as they would a robbery charge, etc. Question for you...Are you against employers running background checks on potential employees? A mistake and committing a crime are different things. It is my sincere hope that neither of you will ever be in the position to have to deal with a situation like this.... If you ever are, then I hope you have some really strong faith and a good support system.... Until then, anything you may say about a situation like this holds absolutely no water and is nothing more than a opinion with no basis in reality.... ....and I don't care what you or anyone else thinks about my posts on this subject. Both of your posts show how limited your world and personal life experience is, and how short sighted your vision is....good for you that you haven't had to deal with any of your children making a "mistake"
April 17, 20179 yr ....and I don't care what you or anyone else thinks about my posts on this subject. Trust me when I say the feeling is absolutely mutual.
April 17, 20179 yr It is my sincere hope that neither of you will ever be in the position to have to deal with a situation like this.... If you ever are, then I hope you have some really strong faith and a good support system.... Until then, anything you may say about a situation like this holds absolutely no water and is nothing more than a opinion with no basis in reality.... ....and I don't care what you or anyone else thinks about my posts on this subject. Both of your posts show how limited your world and personal life experience is, and how short sighted your vision is....good for you that you haven't had to deal with any of your children making a "mistake" You know the bolded as fact? Just curious? Not going to speak for @UKMustangFan, but I bet our life experiences, and self mistakes we have made along the way (as well as seeing others make mistakes) give us foundation for our opinions on the matters at hand. (Just like yours, its an opinion.) Look I get where you're coming from and the reasoning that you have a different take on the situation, and thats cool, im not discounting it, just think differently.
April 17, 20179 yr It is my sincere hope that neither of you will ever be in the position to have to deal with a situation like this.... If you ever are, then I hope you have some really strong faith and a good support system.... Until then, anything you may say about a situation like this holds absolutely no water and is nothing more than a opinion with no basis in reality.... ....and I don't care what you or anyone else thinks about my posts on this subject. Both of your posts show how limited your world and personal life experience is, and how short sighted your vision is....good for you that you haven't had to deal with any of your children making a "mistake" AMEN!
October 7, 20179 yr Sentence? I read an article that sentencing is set for December 4th and that she is expected to be placed in a diversion or rehabilitation program.
October 7, 20179 yr I read an article that sentencing is set for December 4th and that she is expected to be placed in a diversion or rehabilitation program. Typical slap on the wrist.
October 23, 20179 yr I grew up going to school and church with her and her family. Seeing this shocked me. I know her family and her sister were really great people, and I assume some serious situation must have caused her to be estranged from them, and subsequently continue downhill afterwards. I just hope she gets the help she needs. I know many may disagree, but lies can spiral out of control very quickly. Perhaps I'm just giving her benefit of the doubt, but I'd wager this all began as a way to get attention from one or two close friends, and then snowballed quickly through a verbal cascade. Probably never had the intention of people putting on fundraisers and charities in her name, and by then it was likely too late to go back. Who knows I suppose.
October 23, 20179 yr I grew up going to school and church with her and her family. Seeing this shocked me. I know her family and her sister were really great people, and I assume some serious situation must have caused her to be estranged from them, and subsequently continue downhill afterwards. I just hope she gets the help she needs. I know many may disagree, but lies can spiral out of control very quickly. Perhaps I'm just giving her benefit of the doubt, but I'd wager this all began as a way to get attention from one or two close friends, and then snowballed quickly through a verbal cascade. Probably never had the intention of people putting on fundraisers and charities in her name, and by then it was likely too late to go back. Who knows I suppose. I can understand all the reasons you stated above and I’m sure that is part of it. but fact of the matter is, she did deceive people. She needs help and needs to pay for her crimes. Everyone that has done wrong probably has a good reason behind it. It is still wrong.
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