I agree. I am guilty of this and openly admit it. However, I don't push my son or get involved with coaching decisions because in the end it doesn't help your kid or the team. I ask my son to give 110% and try and have fun because it goes by quick. Would I love for him to be a starting guard on a Regional championship team so I could see him do something I never accomplished? Heck yeah ! But to be honest I get more pleasure when he tells me he aced a Biology test or he talks with me about what he wants to do later in life. Not many kids are going to have q chance to be the starter on a team like CovCath so knowing your role nd busting your tail is all you can do. Let the chips fall where they may. If you truly feel your kid is doing these things, being a team player and still being slighted, then set up a meeting with the coach and AD and discuss it. If your kid is doing the right things then you have a leg to stand on. But in the end its the coaches decision ono who hs the better talent and who can help him win games. We always may not agree but we have to deal with it. Its called LIFE.

 

Good post, Q.

 

I think the kid should meet with the coach first. If that doesn't go well, then maybe the parent can get involved. One thing is for certain, an anonymous email to a group of people is not the proper way to go about things.

Good post, Q.

 

I think the kid should meet with the coach first. If that doesn't go well, then maybe the parent can get involved. One thing is for certain, an anonymous email to a group of people is not the proper way to go about things.

 

Alot of kids aren't mature enough to do this but it's definitely a good first step.

Alot of kids aren't mature enough to do this but it's definitely a good first step.

 

A lot of kids aren't, but speaking to your coach (or boss) is part of the maturation process. Getting mommy & daddy involved doesn't help anybody. I'm not saying that the parents should never get involved, but there are WAY too many over-involved parents.

A lot of kids aren't, but speaking to your coach (or boss) is part of the maturation process. Getting mommy & daddy involved doesn't help anybody. I'm not saying that the parents should never get involved, but there are WAY too many over-involved parents.

 

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!

A lot of kids aren't, but speaking to your coach (or boss) is part of the maturation process. Getting mommy & daddy involved doesn't help anybody. I'm not saying that the parents should never get involved, but there are WAY too many over-involved parents.

 

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I have 4 sons, and sometimes things happen for a reason. Each one has a story they could share. The last one wants to play for the University of Alabama. So did I. Just hope this child grows on and off the court. The Price of victory is High, But so are the rewards".

 

How did the Guru write this long story and not lose his post, my time out and I have to re enter. I hate that.

 

Larry, when you log in just click the "Remember Me?" box just beneath your login info. You won't ever get timed out again if you remember to do that.

 

And also this was something theguru copied and pasted so it just took a couple of seconds.

Don't you get it Scribe? Everyone's a winner, and every single person deserves to get exactly what their heart desires no matter what. Welcome to the 21st century!!

 

lol.

When I grew up, I had a dream of marrying Daisy Duke. I worked hard to make sure my chores were done by 7pm on Friday nights. But as I grew older, I realize that this wasn't going to happen.

 

I dont remember sending a bunch of people a letter asking people to pressure Daisy into marrying me. I also didnt send a letter requesting them to bombard CBS with letters forcing her ouster because she didn't marry me. Her acting maybe.

 

What's next for these players? The parents don't feel like they got a fair shake on a job interview so they proceed to send e-mails to the corporate heads requesting the job interviewer's ouster?

 

Their kid gets a speeding ticket so they show up in court on their kid's behalf to argue the fairness of the ticket?

 

A girl dumps their son so they send e-mails to her parents and aunts and uncles asking that she be punished?

 

Parents will be the ruination of high school sports. They are already on their way. At some point, you have to quit trying to fight all of their battles or they will never be self-relient adults.

 

I agree with you too.

When I grew up, I had a dream of marrying Daisy Duke. I worked hard to make sure my chores were done by 7pm on Friday nights. But as I grew older, I realize that this wasn't going to happen.

 

I dont remember sending a bunch of people a letter asking people to pressure Daisy into marrying me. I also didnt send a letter requesting them to bombard CBS with letters forcing her ouster because she didn't marry me. Her acting maybe.

 

What's next for these players? The parents don't feel like they got a fair shake on a job interview so they proceed to send e-mails to the corporate heads requesting the job interviewer's ouster?

 

Their kid gets a speeding ticket so they show up in court on their kid's behalf to argue the fairness of the ticket?

 

A girl dumps their son so they send e-mails to her parents and aunts and uncles asking that she be punished?

 

Parents will be the ruination of high school sports. They are already on their way. At some point, you have to quit trying to fight all of their battles or they will never be self-relient adults.

 

Parents have been like this forever. It is the fact that: A. there are coaches that are still giving into it, and B. parents have a lot more avenues to complain anonymously than they did before.

This letter is ridiculous. If you start out your letter stating that your son wasn't the most athletic, or fastest, and isn't 7 ft. tall, then you already know that your kid is on the list called "Coach's Call." Everyone has a differing opinion of who will help and not help your team. The coach happens to have an opinion that differs from this parent. He is relied on to trust his opinions and build a team based on them. It happens in all walks of life. I work really hard here, but if I'm not good w/ potential customers, I'm never getting off of the bench. It's called life. Let your child learn from this and build character to face situations of disapointment that are actually worthy of a letter.

Short version:

 

I paid all this money for my kid to go to Cov Cath and he's not even getting to play.

 

Aint that the truth!

Parents have been like this forever. It is the fact that: A. there are coaches that are still giving into it, and B. parents have a lot more avenues to complain anonymously than they did before.

This letter is ridiculous. If you start out your letter stating that your son wasn't the most athletic, or fastest, and isn't 7 ft. tall, then you already know that your kid is on the list called "Coach's Call." Everyone has a differing opinion of who will help and not help your team. The coach happens to have an opinion that differs from this parent. He is relied on to trust his opinions and build a team based on them. It happens in all walks of life. I work really hard here, but if I'm not good w/ potential customers, I'm never getting off of the bench. It's called life. Let your child learn from this and build character to face situations of disapointment that are actually worthy of a letter.

 

:thumb:This post pretty much sums it up.

As a result of Coach L's decision to move on and accept teaching/coaching positions at Holmes, I found myself in a pretty lengthy conversation about the situation with some friends and family over this past weekend. Most of us shared the same sentiment - that Coach L might not be a Bulldog now were it not for a boneheaded parent who decided to send around the email being referenced in this thread. One of my brothers was particularly frustrated with the whole situation - and this afternoon when I finally made it into the office, I saw the following email, penned by my brother. He sent it to me to see if I thought it was worth sending back to the original - and anonymous - email address for the "He's Worth It" email. I most definitely do think he should send it.

 

(And just for the record, my brother did include his name on the original, I just left it off on here for obvious reasons.)

 

 

Mr. or Mrs. Worth It,

 

I recently attended the CCH Athletic Hall of Fame induction and interestingly enough FEELINGS were never mentioned by any of the inductees, not once. Mostly thanks for not being caudled, thanks for being pushed, thanks for being taught hard work and discipline. One inductee actually thanked a coach for being cut as a freshman. And in turn, thanked his parents for not letting him FEEL sorry for himself, and not letting him transfer to another school. It was his dream to play for CCH, and it appeared that dream was lost. See, Mr./Mrs. Worth It, it’s just that frustration and adversity that taught him self-motivation, resilience, and not to blame others for his own personal shortfalls. Lessons that kids of any generation can benefit from.

 

Life’s tough sometimes. Life can make you FEEL “absolutely beaten down” on a pretty regular basis. Many bosses, competitors in business, creditors, or any other authority out there in that big scary world really don’t care a whole lot about how you FEEL, or your self esteem. Mostly they care about how you perform, getting your account, or the commission over you, making sure you meet your payments, etc. This may not be the ideal, but it’s certainly the reality. I would hope that as responsible parents, every time our children are met with adversity, or frustration, or actual injustice, we could refrain from blaming all other parties apart from our children to anyone who’ll listen (or has an email address). I would hope, rather than simply running to their aide to simply “rectify” the situation, we use such instances to let them grow as strong, resilient, responsible and able members of our society. When I was in high school at CCH, these adversities were called “life lessons.”

 

“We all sit back in silence letting this happen. Why? Who are we afraid of?” An extremely curious statement to me. The ‘who’ and ‘we’ in particular. You make many references to the other parents, players, etc, who FEEL the same as you, though no names are mentioned, no petition with signatures. In fact, you take great care to not actually mention the name(s) of the actual focus of your smear campaign, “the head coach.” The person or persons you painted with such an evil brush, the one who cares little about the FEELINGS or self esteems of his players. Who, Sir or Madam, are you afraid of?

 

Maybe you're right. Maybe everything you suggest is true. CCH’s basketball program may, in fact, exist to crush dreams, and beat down young psyches. Maybe it should be “stopped.” I admit, apart from my own anecdotal personal experiences with those you anonymously throw accusations toward, I have no real evidence to the contrary. But I do have one compelling argument, beyond what I’ve mentioned above, that might suggest you’re in the minority to say the least…

 

I would ask you teach all our sons a valuable lesson. The next time you want to start a smear campaign against my alma mater, those who teach and coach there, and all those who support it, please don’t do so anonymously. Have the decency to pick up a phone, knock on a door, or at the very least sign your email!

 

Sincerely,

 

XXXXX X XXXXXXXX

CCH ‘97

Saw Coach Listerman at a family function Monday and he intimated that he was relieved to be away from the CCH situation and happy to be headed to Holmes .

He sent it to me to see if I thought it was worth sending back to the original - and anonymous - email address for the "He's Worth It" email. I most definitely do think he should send it.

 

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You could have just gotten the email address from the author that night. I'm sure he was there.

You could have just gotten the email address from the author that night. I'm sure he was there.

 

Ha, trust me, that's not the case.