WOW URIT you sure shook the bushes on this thread. I agree parents dont always understand the whole picture and i know some parents dont worry if the team wins or loses if there kid has played well and got there points i find this a little classless. Also about the pay URIT im sure you and your coaching staff get paid pretty well ? YEA RIGHT for the parents and fans out there who think a high school coach gets alot of money you are dead wrong most coaches work for about 50 cents an hour if you actually broke down the time they spend scouting, watching films, going to clinics, and all the stuff during the off season I commend any individual who coaches high school athletics most if not all do it for the LOVE of the game not the $$$$$ if that were the case there would be no coaches for any sport.

WOW URIT you sure shook the bushes on this thread. I agree parents dont always understand the whole picture and i know some parents dont worry if the team wins or loses if there kid has played well and got there points i find this a little classless. Also about the pay URIT im sure you and your coaching staff get paid pretty well ? YEA RIGHT for the parents and fans out there who think a high school coach gets alot of money you are dead wrong most coaches work for about 50 cents an hour if you actually broke down the time they spend scouting, watching films, going to clinics, and all the stuff during the off season I commend any individual who coaches high school athletics most if not all do it for the LOVE of the game not the $$$$$ if that were the case there would be no coaches for any sport.

 

 

Very well stated:thumb:

You are exactly right CB7... Its for the Love of the game and the kids, not the money!

Very nice post bulldog... Very nice.. You are exactly right, but what I am about to tell you you will not believe, but 100% true.

 

A parent of a player once wanted to draw the starting lineup out of a hat... The only way to be fair he said!

Had a parent who proposed that we track shot attempts and make sure ALL players had equal shot attempts. One would not be allowed to shoot once they reached their max allowed shot attempts. Didn't matter that their child was shooting 17% from the field.

Are you serious? Thats ludicrous!

Had a parent who proposed that we track shot attempts and make sure ALL players had equal shot attempts. One would not be allowed to shoot once they reached their max allowed shot attempts. Didn't matter that their child was shooting 17% from the field.

 

This thread keeps getting better and better...

you have anything to contribute Papa!

you have anything to contribute Papa!

 

I've never coached (unless you count helping out w/ Boys Club soccer close to 20 years ago or helping out the track team in a very limited capacity a couple of years ago). Pretty much a bystander on this thread.

But you as a parent of an athlete that has played sports his whole life you may have heard of some great stories...

 

I know another one:

A parent came to the coach and said, "I dont know why JOE SCHMO isnt playing more he is a good outside shooter."

 

Coach calmly replied, "thats great but we play them all inside this year."

 

HA HA HA

As a parent you want to standby your children, as a coach your tryin' to do the best thing for the team, Coaches in my view are way underpaid, with all the pressure they get from parents, alumni, etc.. I don't see how one could do their job, my hats off to them, they really have a love for coaching and doing what they do.

A team that my child was on one year had 4 seniors. 2 were 4 year players and had started every game. The other 2 had only played this one year and never started. They were wonderful kids but not quite as talented as several underclassman. They had decided to play every sport their senior year. On Senior Night, we were scheduled to play a very tough team and the coach played his regular starters. Prior to the game beginning, the mother of one of the seniors that was not scheduled to start, came out of the stands and threw her senior-mother corsage at the coach, grabbed her kid, and stormed off. Thankfully, she completely missed the coach with the corsage which was made with this huge mum. One of the other players picked the mum up from off the floor and said, "Well, I gues we see where he got his throwing ability". The poor child whose mother had thrown the little hissy fit was so embarrassed. Of course, he got ribbed pretty bad at school for the incident. That mum has remained part of the team as a reminder to parents that we do not always see things as the coach sees things and that our actions are often payed for by our children.

Nice post and thanks for contributing to the thread Americandad.

I am a parent of a girl basketball player, but I think this thread relates to both, so I am going to post my 2 cents worth.

I do admit that coaches are underpaid and put in a lot of time, but they know that going in to the position.

 

Also, I do think coaches that have grudges or disagreements with parents will hold it against the kid. I have seen this happen in my schools coaches on both the boys and the girls side. I wish coaches would just see things from a parent point a view. We as parents want the best for our kids and if we don't think that is going on we get upset.

yeah really.. but truly approached the coach and asked him to draw the starters out of a hat.. there were 7 or 8 seniors on that team...

 

This is indeed FACT. Not only was there a large number of seniors on the team, the parent who came up with this ridiculous idea, his kid was an 8th grader. Lucky to even be apart of any program at that age.

I am a parent of a girl basketball player, but I think this thread relates to both, so I am going to post my 2 cents worth.

I do admit that coaches are underpaid and put in a lot of time, but they know that going in to the position.

 

Also, I do think coaches that have grudges or disagreements with parents will hold it against the kid. I have seen this happen in my schools coaches on both the boys and the girls side. I wish coaches would just see things from a parent point a view. We as parents want the best for our kids and if we don't think that is going on we get upset.

I agree with what I have bolded. Unfortunately, the part that is the bolded doesn't always mean it is best for the team. And the team is the primary concern of the coach, not one particular player. There is the difference.

 

Also, the parent is not always accurately informed.

 

They don't know what is going on in practice. Was familiar with a parent who couldn't understand why their child was not playing more. They were able to watch a couple of practices and in front of me told their child they wouldn't play them either seeing how LAZY they were in practice. Seeing what went on in practice gave that parent a whole new appreciation and understanding why their child wasn't getting what the parent thought they should.

 

Secondly, teenagers do not always accurately represent information to their parents that would get them in trouble or prevent them from doing what they want. Basically, they will lie when it benefits them. I have been involved in numerous situations where the parent was furious with me for something. We talked and they found out that the situation as being presented to them was inaccurate.

 

For example, player showed up to practice late. They ran. Received a call from mom afterwards furious that their daughter had to run for being late. When I pointed out that it was the 4th straight practice they were over 15 minutes late, mom had a different view. Player had left out the previous 3 instances of being late.

 

Also, a mom kept on me and on me about a required afterschool meeting. When I had the teacher tell the parent the meeting wasn't required, the parent indicated that wasn't what her daughter had told her. Player wanted a reason to get out of practice and was representing a different story to her parents to get her way.

 

Now, not all players do this. But the number of times that it does happen would surprise parents.

 

Not my opinion but from observations after 18 years of doing this.