I could care less who is held back and who isn't.

 

I do find it interesting that many of those who held back are celebrated for career point achievements, it is clearly an advantage for most.

Then give them an asterisk.

I could care less who is held back and who isn't.

 

I do find it interesting that many of those who held back are celebrated for career point achievements, it is clearly an advantage for most.

 

The record book is only filled with kids that legally allowed to play by the KHSAA.

I've known of no stigma ever once you've repeated a grade other than sniping adults. Kids don't care.

Are you kidding? My son will bold face lie to anyone and everyone about his grade. He worries whether or not anyone knows his "secret".

For the record I too think it is an each is their own thing. Like many others have pointed out I wish parents would look at the big picture when doing this so that they can make the best decision possible for their family.

Again, not true. What authority, experience or research are these statements coming from??

 

Just my own personal experience of parenting 5 children. After that, not much at all.

Are you kidding? My son will bold face lie anyone and everyone about his grade. He worries whether or not anyone knows his "secret".

 

He'd be the first. I know hundreds of kids who have been held back. Not one regrets it or thinks it was a bad idea, and not remotely would tell you differently. I hate that yours thinks it's a bad thing. Bet it's a parent driven anxiety (not his parents of course, but comments made by others perhaps) if he has one.

For the record I too think it is an each is their own thing. Like many others have pointed out I wish parents would look at the big picture when doing this so that they can make the best decision possible for their family.

 

If they don't they aren't much of a parent if you ask me. I'm sure that there's one out there, but I've never met a parent or child who, after the fact, regrets the decision.

And how would either of us prove this?

 

I can prove it to you. A Masters degree in early childhood development and years of teaching young kids in elementary school good enough?

Holding back has become so commonplace that the stigma is becoming less and less of a factor IMO.

Just my own personal experience of parenting 5 children. After that, not much at all.

 

So, have you had to hold any of them back? I'm open to a face-to-face debate on this subject. You are dead wrong.

Holding back has become so commonplace that the stigma is becoming less and less of a factor IMO.

 

Spot on.

So, have you had to hold any of them back? I'm open to a face-to-face debate on this subject. You are dead wrong.

 

Cage match!

Had 4 kids, held one back because he just wasn't mature enough. He did not like it when he got older. He was miserable in high school his senior year. I don't think it made one bit of difference except his attitude his senior year. Who knows he might have still been that way if we had sent him earlier, he just didn't like school. The other three pretty normal high school experiences and they started on time. Holding kids back after they start can affect some kids emotionally/socially in a variety of ways in my experiences as an educator. I don't know if stigma is the correct word, though. High school kids fail course all the time and have to take them over, they usually go to summer school and get the credit. There is no stigma there, usually just embarrassment. Kids are different, as we all know, even if you raise them under the same roof. It has to be a personal decision.

What is the stigma of a child not ready to move on due to maturity, developmental, or emotional issues, but moved on anyway?

I can prove it to you. A Masters degree in early childhood development and years of teaching young kids in elementary school good enough?

 

Congrats. I bet I can find studies that say your belief and understanding is incorrect. So now what?