It's my opinion that if a parent chooses to hold a child back, the earlier the better. Just my opinion.

It's my opinion that if a parent chooses to hold a child back, the earlier the better. Just my opinion.

 

Agreed.

One, the child has developed friendships with his classmates. Two, there is a stigma of being "held back" once you repeat a grade.

 

I know several kids who have been held back and none of them have had a stigma or any problems adjusting to their new classmates. It's only one grade so they knew and played with most of the kids anyway.

From a personal POV I have one who we started early, but decided to hold back due to maturity issues and struggling a little in school. His grades were good enough to move on, but my wife and I knew he wasn't ready. There was zero stigma. Was a great decision.

 

From a professional POV there are lots of kids each year who would benefit from being held back... for a variety of reasons. Its ignorant to throw a blanket statement over this issue and state kids would suffer a stigma if they were held back.

 

It truly is a case-by-case basis. There is not a "one size fits all" approach to this.

I can prove it to you. A Masters degree in early childhood development and years of teaching young kids in elementary school good enough?

 

BTW when someone challenges your opinion the BEST way for them to tune out your response is to tell them how smart you think you are vs giving them proof of your theory.

From a personal POV I have one who we started early, but decided to hold back due to maturity issues and struggling a little in school. His grades were good enough to move on, but my wife and I knew he wasn't ready. There was zero stigma. Was a great decision.

 

From a professional POV there are lots of kids each year who would benefit from being held back... for a variety of reasons. Its ignorant to throw a blanket statement over this issue and state kids would suffer a stigma if they were held back.

 

It truly is a case-by-case basis. There is not a "one size fits all" approach to this.

 

Fair enough on the blanket statement. Let me re-phrase. The later you have them repeat the bigger the stigma and/or embarrassment factor.

So, have you had to hold any of them back? I'm open to a face-to-face debate on this subject. You are dead wrong.

 

Yes. The most difficult and painful thing I have ever done. I regret it all the time. Next?

Congrats. I bet I can find studies that say your belief and understanding is incorrect. So now what?

 

Find them then. I'll gladly meet you face to face to debate this subject. Out of curiosity, how many children do you have? How many children have you held back? How many children's parents have you had to counsel and recommend to have them held back?

 

Its funny, I was at a fantasy football draft earlier this year and mentioned "Bluegrass Preps" and several of the guys there brought your username up, and only yours, and had very strong opinions about you

Yes. The most difficult and painful thing I have ever done. I regret it all the time. Next?

 

I have all the respect in the world for you hoops, and I have to admit, you're the only one I've ever known who says they regret it. Hate it that you feel that way, truly.

Fair enough on the blanket statement. Let me re-phrase. The later you have them repeat the bigger the stigma and/or embarrassment factor.

 

What do you consider as being "later"?

Find them then. I'll gladly meet you face to face to debate this subject. Out of curiosity, how many children do you have? How many children have you held back? How many children's parents have you had to counsel and recommend to have them held back?

 

Its funny, I was at a fantasy football draft earlier this year and mentioned "Bluegrass Preps" and several of the guys there brought your username up, and only yours, and had very strong opinions about you

 

Wow. Look at Ennam. Trying the "I'll hurt his feelings approach."

 

Rookie.

Fair enough on the blanket statement. Let me re-phrase. The later you have them repeat the bigger the stigma and/or embarrassment factor.

 

Again, its a case by case basis. There are lots of examples of DI caliber players who are held back (reclassified) who are NOT "embarrassed."

What do you consider as being "later"?

 

Relative. IMO it's a lot better to do it in the 1st grade than the 4th grade but the 4th grade is much better than the 7th grade.

Yes. The most difficult and painful thing I have ever done. I regret it all the time. Next?

 

Sorry to hear this, but that is not the experience we had with our son, nor is it the experience for most of the other kids. Why push kids forward who are not ready for the next level? A lot of these kids are dealing with so much more that "being held back" does not even put a dent in the car. Single, alcoholic parents who aren't involved, both parents in jail and living in foster homes, etc...

 

I think a lot of you live in a sheltered world and just have no idea what is going on out there.

Wow. Look at Ennam. Trying the "I'll hurt his feelings approach."

 

Rookie.

 

Ennam people have different opinions don't take it so personlly. You'll never have a peaceful moment if you don't on here. I'm not taking up for Clyde because he doesn't need me or anyone else to. Just chill some. Usually I just sit here and laugh at everything said. it entertains me. I hope you can enjoy it. Some people may not like BGP, that's ok they don't have to get on here.