As for me...

 

1. I have a 6 yo daughter and a 2 yo son. I'm not going to lie, I will probably feel differently about each. I know I probably shouldn't but it's just how I'm wired. That said, I will try to have most of the discussions about this prior to them doing it (hopefully). If I find out after the fact I will do what most have already said here. Make sure they are thinking about what they are doing, protecting themselves, and being smart about it.

 

2. Tell them to be safe and make sure they don't get caught with it.

So would that apply to drinking beer before he's/she's 21?

 

No, I don't think that is as serious (due to the different laws) and I would have a hard time punishing he/she for something I did many times myself. However, a DUI may be a different story.

 

Ya'll need to remember. I don't even have a girlfriend. So the way I view things could change big time in 18-30 years lol.

1) Get the daughter to a gyno for birth control and sit down with her and her boyfriend to uncomfortably discuss the benefits of wrapping. Remind the son of the consequence of not wrapping and have to raise a child. The "Forget Your Dreams for a Piece of Tail" speech. If they had sex that early, I didn't know about it and everything worked out. Blossom has never been pregnant and the Big Guy didn't get anybody but his wife pregnant after he turned 30, and is waiting on his second child. I didn't have the nephew by this age, and it was only through God's grace that he didn't seed the planet. However, he does have a son he is not allowed to see.

 

2) Don't bogart.

How old will you be then? :lol: That's a long time.

 

Well I'm 21, and don't plan on having kids anytime soon.

From dad's funds...aka paying for college or things of that nature. Not communication.

 

One time? They don't get a chance to learn from their mistakes?

One time? They don't get a chance to learn from their mistakes?

 

Pretty tough room. I always get a kick out of the responses from posters on subjects like this. We must have more "saints" per capita on this site than Vaticanpreps.com...

Pretty tough room. I always get a kick out of the responses from posters on subjects like this. We must have more "saints" per capita on this site than Vaticanpreps.com...

 

I said if I found out about it.

I watch the show "Parenthood" and in last night's episode the 16 yr old daughter admitted to her parents that she and her boyfriend were having sex.

 

Got me to thinking about 2 scenarios.

 

1. The above. Your child tells you or you find out that your child is having sex with his/her significant other. What do you do?

 

2. Your junior or senior in high school tells you that it's inevitable that he/she will smoke weed when they get to college. What is your reply?

 

1. I guess I'm different than everyone else. While I would also have the nice sit-down talk as others have mentioned, I would also look to greatly curtail/end the relationship. I know someone will say, "They'll find a way to get together anyway", and if so, so be it. But no way, shape, or form am I going to condone my 16 year daughter - or son, for that matter, - engaging in a practice that could affect their lives forever. There is simply no way I could have some kid in my house that I know is hooking up with my daughter, unless of course, I purposely let him in the house so I could kill him.

 

2. Are they telling you they are going to "try" marijuana, that they will be "occasional" users, or that they intend to use it "regularly"? Trying it I have no problem. Occasionally using it bothers me and we'll have a nice, long sitdown talk about it. Regularly using it - no chance I put my blessing on that. One of my biggest concerns, other than them walking around stoned all the time of course, is that they will either be frequent purchasers of the product or will be purchasing large quantities to last a longer period of time. This isn't like getting caught with a bunch of beer/liquor - get caught with a sizeable quantity of weed and you get introduced to a trafficking charge. If I'm told by my child this is the path they intend to pursue in college (regular usage), my financial support probably ends.

 

For the record, I have a 17 year old high school daughter and a 19 year old college freshman son. And I feel pretty comfortable saying I won't be dealing with either of these issues. I hope . . . . .

For parents with teenagers, what is your take on your child drinking in high school?

For parents with teenagers, what is your take on your child drinking in high school?

 

Unacceptable.

For parents with teenagers, what is your take on your child drinking in high school?

 

Like Clyde said, Unacceptable. However, I also realize that it's probably going to happen. My son told us when he first did it (junior). We were bummed and very disappointed, but also realistic. We didn't go off on him and didn't enforce any punishment. I think him knowing we were disappointed bothered him quite a bit. While I think there may have been another occasion or two in high school that he did so, we did not know about it. Our "deal" was that we expected him not to do it, in no way condoned it, and if we found out about it again, he was going to be punished. He also knew that if he ever got a DUI, he would be best off to stay in lockup as long as the police would allow him.

Like Clyde said, Unacceptable. However, I also realize that it's probably going to happen. My son told us when he first did it (junior). We were bummed and very disappointed, but also realistic. We didn't go off on him and didn't enforce any punishment. I think him knowing we were disappointed bothered him quite a bit. While I think there may have been another occasion or two that he did so, we did not know about. Our "deal" was that we expected him not to do it, in no way condoned it, and if we found out about it again, he was going to be punished. He also knew hat if he ever got a DUI, he would be best off to stay in lockup as long as the police would allow him.

 

It's unacceptable but , as you point out, is often times going to happen. My goal was to get them to college before it became a regular or semi-regular occurrence. I only made it to my junior year before it started happening on a regular basis.

Continue to pray.

It's unacceptable but , as you point out, is often times going to happen. My goal was to get them to college before it became a regular or semi-regular occurrence. I only made it to my junior year before it started happening on a regular basis.

 

Your eccentricities are starting to make a bit more sense now. You are apparently drunk all the time.

Your eccentricities are starting to make a bit more sense now. You are apparently drunk all the time.

 

I should clarify that it's slowed down as I age. I get tired easier now which saves me money.