Parents can be a mixed blessing. It is hard for them to bow out at the school level when they have been involved in rec league, city leagues and aau. I think sometimes they don't realize it it time to turn over to a professional. There are so many ways parents can help - it takes a skilled coach to supervise all aspects of athletic programs - volunteers, staff, kids, etc.

 

Also, sometimes other parents are critical of a parent who is involved - thinking that is the only reason their child is getting playing time - when it might not be - that helpful parent may have a good athlete!

 

Just because someone is a High School coach does not mean they are the professional. There are quite a few high school coaches that have limited to no experience, and receive coaching positions because they are already a teacher at the school.

 

I have seen some good high school and AAU coaches, but have seen other ones that don't know what they are doing.

regardless of how experienced or professional a high school (or any level coach really) is, it doesnt give any parent the right to yell and scream instructions at their kids during the games.

 

Too many parents think they know better. Regardless of who the coach is parents should give him or her the respect they deserve during games. Usually the best and most knowledgable parents are the ones that are quiet during games (aside for cheering, of course).

Many times lately (especially when the gym is not very full) I have noticed how embarrassed players are when their parents are sitting in the stands yelling instructions that are probably not what the coach would be saying. I just wish there was some way for the parents to get a clue!

 

It also seems like this parent has chosen a seat away from the crowd - so they stand out even more! All parents ought to be forced to sit together, cheer together and be nice.

Many times lately (especially when the gym is not very full) I have noticed how embarrassed players are when their parents are sitting in the stands yelling instructions that are probably not what the coach would be saying. I just wish there was some way for the parents to get a clue!

 

It also seems like this parent has chosen a seat away from the crowd - so they stand out even more! All parents ought to be forced to sit together, cheer together and be nice.

 

I was refereeing a summer scrimmage with Scott HS two summers ago. Mother and Father were just pains in the stands. A Scott player was shooting a free throw and I handed her the ball. She looked at me and requested TWICE that I throw her parents out of the gym.

 

I mentioned it to the coaches and they said they acted like that every single game.

Agree with most everyone. The parents that typically complain are the ones where there kid does not play, when the kids play the parents are suportive; I have seen this for years. The one problem I do have is what do you or can you do if the coach is awful which harms the program?:idunno:

Agree with most everyone. The parents that typically complain are the ones where there kid does not play, when the kids play the parents are suportive; I have seen this for years. The one problem I do have is what do you or can you do if the coach is awful which harms the program?:idunno:

 

I would suggest being supportive of the program and making one conversation with AD regarding our concerns and that is it.

 

In the stands, you are supportive and not talking with other parents about how awful the coach is.

I can only speak for Ashland and I don't hear the parents yelling anything except opposition to the refs calls, which have been somewhat questionable this year. There is one dad who does yell "shoot it" once in awhile but thats pretty rare. Honestly, I think most parents are pretty supportive there.

Edited February 1, 200917 yr by Ram
Rule 13

Most problems, if not all, are parental problems at the root.

 

You hit the nail right on the head!

Most problems, if not all, are parental problems at the root.

 

I can think of several examples of the child just acting as he has seen at home, this goes both ways. I have coached and seen a positive kid no matter the situation and I have seen a kid negative no matter the situation. 95% of the time it comes directly from the parent.

IMO is just comes down to who knows basketball and who doesnt. Some parents mean well and make a suggestion and thats it. Some parents want to coach and have no clue. I feel sorry for some kids because I know its not their fault. Parents just need to stay out of the gym unless asked to come in or has a problem that needs to be addressed without "child" supervision.

I think you will find that the parents that question the coach's are the same parents that there own children question everything at the house also. I guess I am old school, if my dad or mother told me something or any adult for that matter, I would believe it and not question authorty. I bought into anything my coach's were selling, and played to the fullest of my ability. I try to instill this in my son today. To give 110 % and eventually no matter politics or no politics the creame always come to the top. I don't see anyone sitting the bench that could be averaging 20 pts and 10 rebounds a game or a kid that throws 90 and runs a 6-8 60. The kids we are talking about are the marginal kids that just love to play the game.

The most amazing thing about parents is that they have never played or been around ball in their lifetime and they have a kid that plays sports and all of a sudden the parent becomes an authority on the game. :ylsuper:

I don't know about Ashland and Boyd but I can tell you that there are a couple of schools in our area that "the parents running the show" statement is imo exactly what is going on, one in paticular they run the team, coach, AD and for that matter the school. That is JMO based on some very good sources that very close to the situation. I don't think that it is needed or would it be right to name any specific school so I won't.

I am sure this goes on to some extent in other schools as well.

Most problems, if not all, are parental problems at the root.

:thumb: Although I do think the good parents out number the bad, just that the bad ones are the most vocal and make all look bad.

 

I have heard many parents yell the exact opposite of what a kid has been taught many times.

I cannot begin to tell you how many times that I have heard this down through the years. A parent (or just any fan) imo should let the players play, the coaches coach. Should a parent have a problem with a coach for whatever the reason then imo they should approach that coach in private about it, certainly not screaming it out at a game for all to hear. I beleive that most coaches, if approached in the right manner would calmly discuss any concerns a parent may have with them.That parent may not like the answers they recieve but a coach imo would at least discuss a concern given it was presented in a proper manner. JMO

:thumb: Although I do think the good parents out number the bad, just that the bad ones are the most vocal and make all look bad.

 

 

I cannot begin to tell you how many times that I have heard this down through the years. A parent (or just any fan) imo should let the players play, the coaches coach. Should a parent have a problem with a coach for whateveer the reason then imo they should approach that coach in private about it, certainly not screaming it out at a game for all to hear. I beleive that most coaches, if approached in the right manner would calmly discuss any concerns a parent may have with them.That parent may not like the answerrs but a coach imo would at least discuss a concern given it was presented in a proper manner. JMO

 

The player should be the first person to talk to the coach.

 

It is a life learning moment for the player. If the child has a problem at McDonald's where they work, are the parents going into talk to the manager or is the child?

 

The child is there to learn a lesson for the rest of their life.

The player should be the first person to talk to the coach.

 

It is a life learning moment for the player. If the child has a problem at McDonald's where they work, are the parents going into talk to the manager or is the child?

 

The child is there to learn a lesson for the rest of their life.

 

Very good point! I agree 100%!:thumb: