I feel for the couple who want to have a child....BUT, isn't the requirement of a couple to be married? I don't know, but I do know they can never be married. This is from my reading of the Bible. Man changes God doesn't. And I also agree they could be very good parents. I'm stuck on the fence and it hurts.

What the Bible says should have nothing to do wtih the state's decision.

I can understand the arguments to the contrary, but anyone that says a child is better off in a foster home than having a family is just silly.

 

Not so, depends on both the foster home and the family.

In all this discussion of the "affect" of gay parents on children, how in the world is it that straight parents have gay kids?

 

Clearly one of the parents isn't straight and is just living a lie.:lol:

 

In all seriousness that question you raised RM is exactly why I don't think their is as much of an "affect" as what some would say. Often times when looking at the affects it seems like people would view it as a "negative affect" if the child were to "turn out gay because of their gay parents", when there is no reason at all for that to be considered a negative other than the public persecution and obstacles that may come from it. It's an interesting topic that isn't often addressed in a public forum but probably should be.

I think the effect that posters are talking about is the effect on the child's social life, not the child's sexual orientation. Kids can be cruel, and chances are that a child raised by two homosexual adults will be harassed throughout his or her childhood. It's not fair, but that's life. It is a very real concern, but something that I think can be overcome.

 

Ultimately, I think this is probably the No. 1 issue for most folks — the idea of putting the kid through years of being made fun of for something they can't control. Fortunately, as a society we seemed to have moved beyond the idea of concerns for children of interracial marriages because it is much more common now. My guess is children of same-sex marriage in the next decade will deal with a lot less harassment than their peers from prior decades.

 

The biggest problem I see in all this is parents who try to be overprotective and control every little detail about their kids' lives rather than just letting them grow up and get into a few dust-ups in order to toughen them up.

 

One thing I'm pretty sure of, however, is that it will probably always be fashionable for kids to make fun of other kids whose first name is a euphemism for male genitalia, despite the fact that parents keep naming their kids Peter and/or Richard. In fact, I'd be willing to bet the number of jokes I've been the butt of over the years related to this would rival and perhaps surpass any teasing kids of same-sex parents might receive. It's at least close.

I think the effect that posters are talking about is the effect on the child's social life, not the child's sexual orientation. Kids can be cruel, and chances are that a child raised by two homosexual adults will be harassed throughout his or her childhood. It's not fair, but that's life. It is a very real concern, but something that I think can be overcome.

 

I think my question still applies even so. Gay kids raised by straight parents face har.assment, probably much worse harassment than the straight kid raised by gay parents. Just sayin'. Some of the gay kids of straight parents are harassed and disowned by their own families.

The dysfunction displayed is no different than two alcoholics or two addicted gamblers raising a child. All are equal in my opinion. God made man to be with woman. Nothing more. Nothing less. Any deviation is sin. Doesn't mean that something good can't come out of it....We can only hope.

The dysfunction displayed is no different than two alcoholics or two addicted gamblers raising a child. All are equal in my opinion. God made man to be with woman. Nothing more. Nothing less. Any deviation is sin. Doesn't mean that something good can't come out of it....We can only hope.

 

Would you allow two alcoholics or gambling addicts to adopt a child?

I work in the mental health field. Over the years, I have taken care of MANY patients who were raised by heterosexual parents, but were severely damaged by their parents' mental/physical/sexual abuse, or by their drug/alcohol addiction. I have yet to have one who was damaged by having parents who were homosexuals.

Some kids are always going to find a reason to bully other kids. I would think that homosexuals would likely raise children to be tolerant of others and also teach them how to deal with bullies because of their own life experiences.

 

Rockmom, I do think it is easier for gay couples (gay individuals) to adopt children today than it was 20 years ago.

 

I do know one couple who adopted children (one partner being the legal parent), and after several years they broke up. The non legal parent didnt have a leg to stand on as far as visitation is concerned because she wasnt a legal guardian. That is very unfortunate for someone who has acted like a parent for years, only to be told that she was no longer a parent and had no right to those children. Guess that is a topic for another thread...

Not so, depends on both the foster home and the family.

 

I agree. Also, many kids that have been adopted have been so by their foster parents.

Would you allow two alcoholics or gambling addicts to adopt a child?

 

I'm just making it clear that we cannot make the distinction between sin no matter what shape it takes. I am not at liberty to give my opinion on what I would do in that situation. On the surface, I would say that I would discourage the adoption until the parents are fit to raise the child the way he/she was intended to be raised.....

I'm just making it clear that we cannot make the distinction between sin no matter what shape it takes. I am not at liberty to give my opinion on what I would do in that situation. On the surface' date=' I would say that I would discourage the adoption until the parents are fit to raise the child the way he/she was intended to be raised.....[/quote']

 

Your justification on the adoption issue is that being gay is a sin?

I'm just making it clear that we cannot make the distinction between sin no matter what shape it takes. I am not at liberty to give my opinion on what I would do in that situation. O.....

 

Why would you not be at liberty?

I'm about as liberal as they get; and am not often given to "political incorrectness".

 

But for the life of me, this thread has Johnny Cash's "A Boy Named Sue" going through my head. There, I said it. So sue me (ha ha).

And to be clear, a boy named Sue raised in a loving family of any makeup, probably is better off than a boy named Sam in an orphanage. Just my opinion.

Your justification on the adoption issue is that being gay is a sin?

 

Yes, it is sinful. But so is alot of things we all do as humans. There is no distinction. Sin is sin. And we all sin....