I know 3 gay couples who have adopted. I didn't realize there was an issue with it in most places anymore.

 

Of course, I guess it could be they haven't tried in a while. They've been together 32 years. I'm not sure how old either of them are exactly, but I do know the guy I work with is planning to retire in January. So, given the 32 year history together, and the plan to retire, it's entirely possible they haven't tried in the last decade.

Of course, I guess it could be they haven't tried in a while. They've been together 32 years. I'm not sure how old either of them are exactly, but I do know the guy I work with is planning to retire in January. So, given the 32 year history together, and the plan to retire, it's entirely possible they haven't tried in the last decade.

 

I don't really know how age factors into these equations, I'm sure it does though. But any couple or individual for that matter, with a good track record in life should be able to adopt in my opinion. There is no way a child is better off in foster homes than they are with a person who truly wants them.

Of course, I guess it could be they haven't tried in a while. They've been together 32 years. I'm not sure how old either of them are exactly, but I do know the guy I work with is planning to retire in January. So, given the 32 year history together, and the plan to retire, it's entirely possible they haven't tried in the last decade.

 

Could it because of their age?

Could it because of their age?

 

I get the impression they tried several times in the past, but not recently. So, I don't think it would have been age at that point. I would estimate the were in their early to mid 40's then...maybe up to early 50's.

It's just another ploy from "the gays" to get more people on their "team".

 

j/k, brings back bad memories of a thread from a while back.

 

I agree with everyone else in this thread.

Ohio, Kentucky and Florida

 

I would say they wouldn't have much problem now however only one of them could adopt. Kentucky will allow a single parent to adopt but still will not let two people of the same sex adopt together.

I've thought about this issue quite a bit, no doubt it's complicated and there is opposition either way you flip it. Every child deserves a good home, that's a given. However I lean towards saying no to the issue for a few reasons. For starters, What kind of psychological impact will the adoption have on the child? Will the child be picked on in school? I would think so. Simply being realistic here, but would parents refrain from letting their kids play with the adopted child because of his parents? I think some would. Here is a prime example, at a daycare that my Girlfriend works at, there is a child in this very situation. He is a boy who has been adopted by a woman who is a lesbian, and also has a partner. The little boy acts feminine, wears pink clothes and is dressed usually in a way that a little boy wouldn't be dressed. The situation actually got to the point where the daycare had to step in and say something to his parents when he came in wearing girls underwear, which was seen by the other children. Needless to say, the 6 year old boy is picked on and has serious trust issues, even with people at the daycare. Look, i'm sure there are plenty of cases where a gay couple could raise a child, and the child would be perfectly fine. But I don't think you can comprimise the ones that are raised like the little boy at my girlfriends daycare.

I've thought about this issue quite a bit, no doubt it's complicated and there is opposition either way you flip it. Every child deserves a good home, that's a given. However I lean towards saying no to the issue for a few reasons. For starters, What kind of psychological impact will the adoption have on the child? Will the child be picked on in school? I would think so. Simply being realistic here, but would parents refrain from letting their kids play with the adopted child because of his parents? I think some would. Here is a prime example, at a daycare that my Girlfriend works at, there is a child in this very situation. He is a boy who has been adopted by a woman who is a lesbian, and also has a partner. The little boy acts feminine, wears pink clothes and is dressed usually in a way that a little boy wouldn't be dressed. The situation actually got to the point where the daycare had to step in and say something to his parents when he came in wearing girls underwear, which was seen by the other children. Needless to say, the 6 year old boy is picked on and has serious trust issues, even with people at the daycare. Look, i'm sure there are plenty of cases where a gay couple could raise a child, and the child would be perfectly fine. But I don't think you can comprimise the ones that are raised like the little boy at my girlfriends daycare.

 

First, let me applaud you for thinking about this as it's going to be something that your generation deals with in the future more than my generation does today. I also applaud your concern for the child. That's key in my opinion moreso than the rights of the adopters.

 

With that said I argue differently. Your GF's experience is not the norm. Zero chance most gay couples will dress their boy in pink and have them wear girl's underwear. To your bigger point that the child of a gay couple may be ostracized would you have told a white couple that they could not adopt a black child 20 or 30 years ago? I'm sure the same argument was made then (heck, it's probably still being made). I don't think we can punish the child by leaving them in an untenable situation simply due to the few and the loud.

 

Again, your bigger concern is absolutely valid and should be taken into consideration. IMO the overall well-being of the child being adopted into a loving environment outweighs the chance that some will not treat the child well due to his/her parents.

First, let me applaud you for thinking about this as it's going to be something that your generation deals with in the future more than my generation does today. I also applaud your concern for the child. That's key in my opinion moreso than the rights of the adopters.

 

With that said I argue differently. Your GF's experience is not the norm. Zero chance most gay couples will dress their boy in pink and have them wear girl's underwear. To your bigger point that the child of a gay couple may be ostracized would you have told a white couple that they could not adopt a black child 20 or 30 years ago? I'm sure the same argument was made then (heck, it's probably still being made). I don't think we can punish the child by leaving them in an untenable situation simply due to the few and the loud.

 

Again, your bigger concern is absolutely valid and should be taken into consideration. IMO the overall well-being of the child being adopted into a loving environment outweighs the chance that some will not treat the child well due to his/her parents.

Do you have any stats to back up the zero chance statement? Maybe they should have adopted a girl instead of a boy and this wouldn't have been a problem. The white couple adopting a black child or the other way around is comparing apples to oranges. I think a child should be placed in a loving home no matter what the parents sexual preference is. I also think anyone who thinks a child who ends up in a gay home won't be affected by the lifestyle of the parents is not thinking clearly.

I feel for the couple who want to have a child....BUT, isn't the requirement of a couple to be married? I don't know, but I do know they can never be married. This is from my reading of the Bible. Man changes God doesn't. And I also agree they could be very good parents. I'm stuck on the fence and it hurts.

Do you have any stats to back up the zero chance statement? Maybe they should have adopted a girl instead of a boy and this wouldn't have been a problem. The white couple adopting a black child or the other way around is comparing apples to oranges. I think a child should be placed in a loving home no matter what the parents sexual preference is. I also think anyone who thinks a child who ends up in a gay home won't be affected by the lifestyle of the parents is not thinking clearly.

Well, one would presume a gay person would have better fashion sense than that

Do you have any stats to back up the zero chance statement? Maybe they should have adopted a girl instead of a boy and this wouldn't have been a problem. The white couple adopting a black child or the other way around is comparing apples to oranges. I think a child should be placed in a loving home no matter what the parents sexual preference is. I also think anyone who thinks a child who ends up in a gay home won't be affected by the lifestyle of the parents is not thinking clearly.

 

Sometimes you don't need "stats" to know the obvious. Zero chance very many gay gentlemen dress their boy in girl's underwear. To believe otherwise is to believe that gay guys also talk with a lisp, swish when they walk, and always have a limp wrist.

 

As to your last point, it depends on what you mean by "affected." Aren't we all affected by our parents' choices? If my dad is a hard-core liberal in Ft Thomas I'm affected somehow directly or indirectly. If my mom is white and my dad is black I'm affected. If I'm dirt poor I'm affected.

I feel for the couple who want to have a child....BUT, isn't the requirement of a couple to be married? I don't know, but I do know they can never be married. This is from my reading of the Bible. Man changes God doesn't. And I also agree they could be very good parents. I'm stuck on the fence and it hurts.

 

Two distinct arguments. Yours is based on the Bible. If a state allows gay marriage then the couple can be married even though it would not be recognized in your church.

Sometimes you don't need "stats" to know the obvious. Zero chance very many gay gentlemen dress their boy in girl's underwear. To believe otherwise is to believe that gay guys also talk with a lisp, swish when they walk, and always have a limp wrist.

 

As to your last point, it depends on what you mean by "affected." Aren't we all affected by our parents' choices? If my dad is a hard-core liberal in Ft Thomas I'm affected somehow directly or indirectly. If my mom is white and my dad is black I'm affected. If I'm dirt poor I'm affected.

I believe you have changed you're statement from gay couples to what is now gay gentlemen. The couple in the post was women dressing their son in this fashion.

I believe you have changed you're statement from gay couples to what is now gay gentlemen. The couple in the post was women dressing their son in this fashion.

 

Fair enough. I do NOT believe that most lesbian couples would dress their son in pink girl underwear.