Sexual Assault of Men

[MJAlltheWay24]

This isn't a post to defend Donald. I just want to create dialogue.

 

Have other guys on here been "sexually assaulted"? And I put it in quotations because by definition I have experienced it several times, but I never felt like a crime was done against me. And before someone rips into me, yes I understand that women probably feel much more violated when they are touched in certain areas than when most men are.

 

In saying that, on more than one occasion at bars, concerts, and etc. I have had my "junk" grabbed by a random woman or a female friend. On more than one occasion I've had my butt grabbed, pinched, smacked by a drunk female while working a concert, Bengals game, UC game, and etc. as a beer vendor. Been told numerous by middle aged women that they'd "love to get some of my nuts" while selling peanuts at a Reds game.

 

I've never really taken offense to it, nor thought twice about it. Sort of laughed it off, maybe even got a mini ego boost from it, if we are being honest. If I was young and single, maybe I tried and see who it was that did it and create a conversation lol jk.

 

However, I started thinking, by definition, I've been sexually assaulted on numerous occasions. Again I understand that it can really make a woman feel extremely uncomfortable and its absolutely not okay. After Trump's comments, there is so much commentary out there about how if a man would ever do something like what he said, then he is the worst. But it happens quite frequently to men, it just doesn't get talked about. I guess because we aren't really offended or get uncomfortable about it. And I know I'm speaking for myself, I'm sure there maybe are guys that do.

 

Just something I thought was interesting and could create some good dialogue.

[StrongSide]

I never really thought about it but yes this definitely happens all the time out at bars.

[TheDeuce]

Sounds like I need to start selling beer with you...

 

In all seriousness, this happens just as much to men as it does to women. The difference is most women will speak up when it bothers them, most men won't. Why that is would vary from person to person I think. Genetically we are programmed to hump anything that moves, so naturally most men aren't going to mind being groped.

[Wireman]

Where are those bars at? Asking for a friend

[StrongSide]

Where are those bars at? Asking for a friend

 

Just hit OTR or the banks or Mount Adams I don't think you can go wrong haha

[TAC]

There seem to be 2 sets of rules. We have had many conversations that girls are now more aggressive than boys. Both parents of boys and girls tended to agree.

[MJAlltheWay24]

Sounds like I need to start selling beer with you...

 

In all seriousness, this happens just as much to men as it does to women. The difference is most women will speak up when it bothers them, most men won't. Why that is would vary from person to person I think. Genetically we are programmed to hump anything that moves, so naturally most men aren't going to mind being groped.

 

I have to believe that it probably happens more often to females, but it wouldn't shock me to learn it was pretty prevalent for it to happen to males as well. I actually would have guessed that you would have had similar exerperieces @TheDeuce. Just from DJing and/or the nightlife in Louisville.

[TheDeuce]

I have to believe that it probably happens more often to females, but it wouldn't shock me to learn it was pretty prevalent for it to happen to males as well. I actually would have guessed that you would have had similar exerperieces @TheDeuce. Just from DJing and/or the nightlife in Louisville.

 

Oh I have. Depending on where I DJ, girls always want to be in the booth or as close to the DJ as possible. After shows, they always want to talk (that's pretty much all musicians). It can be a fish in a barrel kinda situation at the right place.

[LRCW]

And I here I've been thinking women have been saying they'd like to have my Crocs all the time. I need to get my hearing checked.

[WhoozYoDaddy]

Does anyone think that the women on 'The View' don't engage in some less than pure banter off camera when they have attractive men as guests? Of course they do, but so what?

[GrantNKY]

This is actually a very good thread topic. Curious to hear the responses as this goes on.

[Getslow]

Definitely experienced it. Been made uncomfortable by it at least once. Varying circumstances each time. It's one thing for a girl you know a bit to cop a feel of the old Norwegian flat-butt in a college bar; it's another to have, like I did once, a complete stranger deliberately try to make you feel uncomfortable.

[LRCW]

Definitely experienced it. Been made uncomfortable by it at least once. Varying circumstances each time. It's one thing for a girl you know a bit to cop a feel of the old Norwegian flat-butt in a college bar; it's another to have, like I did once, a complete stranger deliberately try to make you feel uncomfortable.

 

 

@rockmom does that every time she meets a new BGP'er. You should have seen @spindoc's face the first time they met after she copped a feel.

[Habib]

It's happened to me a few times and it's at worst awkward or uncomfortable. I also have no fears that I might be raped or my resistance to it or "not liking" it might lead to a violent reaction. I also have no fears that encouraging that sort of behavior or it being culturally acceptable means I have to comport myself differently and protect myself against possible violence because of my gender. In short, I imagine it's quite a bit different experience for me than for a woman.

[TheDeuce]

@rockmom does that every time she meets a new BGP'er. You should have seen @spindoc's face the first time they met after she copped a feel.

 

She said she wanted to touch my drum when I met her. :idunno: