Tough thing to do, but you had to do something, for the sake of you other players. And as you mentioned, he could have went off on an official or anyone else.

 

Now, since I do not know the kid, or the parents, I am not going to throw out the generic finger pointing. Who really knows what is going on with the kid, and/or his parents, so I won't pass judgment. But, possibly the preacher or whatever at your church can talk to the kid? Maybe they can talk to the parents? It's obvious that the kid has issues and needs help before he has a fit towards someone who will cause him a lot of harm.

 

Throughout my years of coaching I had to kick a couple of kids off the team, never liked it, but when they are told over and over they need to change, and when it's effecting your other players, and the other players are frustrated, there is only one thing left to do.

Some of us tend to be the patron saints of lost causes.

 

Sometimes it works out, and both of you are better for the experience.

 

Some others, no matter how contrite outside of the heat of battle, are lost causes and unsalvageable.

 

The old saying - First time, shame on him. Second time - shame on you. This applies here.

I have found out in my many years of teaching that you can't save them all even though you tried. You have the other boys on your team you have to look out for too. I will be praying for this young man and I am sure you are doing the same.

Just a matter of time before he's doing time from the sounds of it. At some point that rage and anger are going to boil over and he's going to do something he can't take back or just walk away from.

 

You definitely did the right thing.

 

Bet he had a hat on backwards before the game. maybe during.

You did the right thing. I had a guy we played beer league softball with, along with our tournament team. The guy fits this to a T, and he might have been the most talented on the team, but enough is enough.

Bet he had a hat on backwards before the game. maybe during.

 

You're mocking me, aren't you...:lol2:

You're mocking me, aren't you...:lol2:

 

Wouldn't think of it;

Tough spot to be in, BigV. I think you did the right thing & it sounds like you handled it professionally, as well.

 

I think somebody asked, but I didn't see the answer: where are the kid's parents?

There's something else with this kid. I'm no psychologist, but there's something else. (likely at home) Tough spot BVM. I would have done the same thing you did.

I think you handled it perfectly. That being said, forcing anyone to go to church is only going to make them resent it. I've been there.

There's something else with this kid. I'm no psychologist, but there's something else. (likely at home) Tough spot BVM. I would have done the same thing you did.

 

Yep, I believe there is. Our preacher worked briefly in the elementary school system a few years ago and had this young man in a class. Threw fits you wouldn't believe as soon as he was told no or told to do something he didn't want to. The school would actually put him in a room to himself and let him watch tv and eat ice cream to "appease" him evidently. Yeah, looks like that really helped. Anyway, he may have some real issues possibly triggered by FAS (I'll let everyone look that one up if you don't know it). Problem is, I'm not a psychologist or a doctor that is trained to deal with something like this, and I have 10-11 other kids I have to worry about in the group as well, not to mention what he might do and has done in public.

I think you handled it perfectly. That being said, forcing anyone to go to church is only going to make them resent it. I've been there.

 

They aren't being forced to go...they don't have to play basketball. It's a condition of the privilege of getting to play.

They aren't being forced to go...they don't have to play basketball. It's a condition of the privilege of getting to play.

Semantics

I think you handled it perfectly. That being said, forcing anyone to go to church is only going to make them resent it. I've been there.

 

Exactly, it drove you to being an IU fan. :walk:

There's something else with this kid. I'm no psychologist, but there's something else. (likely at home) Tough spot BVM. I would have done the same thing you did.

 

I agree. It could be something at home or he might also be autistic as it sounds very similar to what I've run across when boys have that diagnosis. Tough spot for a coach but you have to do what's right. It's a shame.