I'm helping coach a 7th-8th grade combo team of kids that were cut from the A team. Had our first practice last night. Great attitudes on this group of kids. Looking forward to seeing them develop over the course of the year.

 

Boys or girls? If boys then lets get some games scheduled...this is EXACTLY the same situation I have with my team.

I blame soccer and with that, the invention of the soccer mom.

 

"Soccer is a Communist Plot to take over America"

To me, too many parents use sports as a way to display their abilities as parents, if the kid is cut that means they feel everyone thinks they are failing their kid. This is also why I feel there has been an explosion of so called select teams in every sport, parents think if their kid is not good enough for select sports that they are bad parents and their kids are not worthy.

Boys or girls? If boys then lets get some games scheduled...this is EXACTLY the same situation I have with my team.

 

Great idea!

Boys!

Tongue and Cheek aside most of the parents today grew up in everyone gets a ribbon era. Being able to learn from failure is just as important as celebrating successes. This is how we learn.

 

While at dinner with some of the wife's co-workers I over heard a conversation that they should get rid of the local JV coach because little Johnny was not getting any time while little Timmy has been moved to varsity. I had to bite my tongue to keep from saying that this is how it is suppose to work you goof.

Now days everybody thinks little Johnny is the best player ever.

 

Pot meet Kettle. :lol:

Anyone who has ever spoken w/ me knows that I will be as realistic as I can be about my boys and their athletic ability. I was generally nervous yesterday that they would make it, and that is with a year of working at the game. Last year I didn't think either one would. That one-on-one game at the last day of cuts devastated them more than being cut. One thought that he was the reason that the other wasn't on the team. That was the ONLY thing that I as a parent was a little perturbed about. Once Coach explained how it came about and why he didn't keep them from playing I completely understood. He needed a kid that could guard on the wing and in the post, and the one who could made it. The one who didn't was probably the 5th best PG at the tryout, and you don't take 5 PGs. As for other parents in my boys' class, I feel like they are the exception to the rule. There are no parents, to my knowledge, that have bugged coaches about playing time or questioning cuts. I know of other schools where it is a MAJOR issue, but not in this particular class which is the only one that I have personal knowledge of.

Given my own history in athletics, I plan on explaining to my future children at a very young age an important thing for people in my family to learn:

 

"You can always become a sports blogger."

Or as Principal McGee said in Grease: "if you can't be an athlete, be an athletic supporter!"

I know it's tough for kids to get cut and hard on the parents. Fortunately I never had to deal with that but I am very compassionate about the situation. I have good friends whose kids were cut. The most positive thing I tell the kids is you can still go play basketball, there are tons of options out there and you can still play with your friends. I remember my older boy going to play rec ball with some of his buddies who were cut in High School and it seemed like it was the most fun he ever had. I watched him play HS ball and even though he loved playing he never talked about it much. Quiet kid, didn't really want to discuss games much but when he would run games with the cut guys or some if his football buddies he always laughed and said how much fun it was. Sure playing for your school is great and every kid wants to do it. But I'm here to tell you as long as your son is playing and doing it with his friends, he will experience joy. In the end that is really all we want for our kids. Well, that is what most parents want. Lol

 

I know of around 20+ current 8th graders at Highlands who are not on the school team but are possibly forming a few teams to play at Nothing But Net this winter. As ling as they keep playing and have the courage to keep coming back that is all that matters. Or for that matter as ling as they are simply playing in some capacity. I gotta tell you, I used to love watching some HS rec games at NBN where the parents would come out and cheer, the coaches were classmates and they would dress up in cheap suits lol. The level of play was rough but they were having a blast.

Learning to deal with disappointment is a part of life.

 

I always told my kids that everything is not always going to work out the way you want it to.

 

How you deal with that determines what kind of person you become. You can sit around and feel sorry for yourself, you can blame others, you can work harder to get better, or you can move on to another endeavor.

Edited October 24, 201411 yr by coldweatherfan

Being cut or having to deal with failure can be a good thing for a young person in that it can instill desire. We live, too much, in a world of immediate gratification. Having to deal with disappointment can bring about significant rewards later in life. It can teach a young person the value of working hard to overcome obstacles. I have two kids: one just beginning middle school and one just beginning high school. Both tried out for the school teams, but neither one made it (one has the skill, but not the heart; one has the heart but not the skill). I'm hoping I can use this experience as a teachable moment for my kids.

 

As a parent, here's why I hate them being cut. They won't have the opportunity to further develop relationships with teammates. They won't be surrounded daily by the positive role model of the coaches. I hate it because it means more downtime for my kids..more downtime means they get bored....kids being bored isn't always a good thing.

Being cut or having to deal with failure can be a good thing for a young person in that it can instill desire. We live, too much, in a world of immediate gratification. Having to deal with disappointment can bring about significant rewards later in life. It can teach a young person the value of working hard to overcome obstacles. I have two kids: one just beginning middle school and one just beginning high school. Both tried out for the school teams, but neither one made it (one has the skill, but not the heart; one has the heart but not the skill). I'm hoping I can use this experience as a teachable moment for my kids.

 

As a parent, here's why I hate them being cut. They won't have the opportunity to further develop relationships with teammates. They won't be surrounded daily by the positive role model of the coaches. I hate it because it means more downtime for my kids..more downtime means they get bored....kids being bored isn't always a good thing.

 

Absolutely agree

Being cut or having to deal with failure can be a good thing for a young person in that it can instill desire. We live, too much, in a world of immediate gratification. Having to deal with disappointment can bring about significant rewards later in life. It can teach a young person the value of working hard to overcome obstacles. I have two kids: one just beginning middle school and one just beginning high school. Both tried out for the school teams, but neither one made it (one has the skill, but not the heart; one has the heart but not the skill). I'm hoping I can use this experience as a teachable moment for my kids.

 

As a parent, here's why I hate them being cut. They won't have the opportunity to further develop relationships with teammates. They won't be surrounded daily by the positive role model of the coaches. I hate it because it means more downtime for my kids..more downtime means they get bored....kids being bored isn't always a good thing.

 

If you lived anywhere near me they could come and play for me. If they really want to play I would scour the area where you live and see if there are rec leagues, church leagues, maybe someone runs something like I do...something to try and keep them involved.

If you lived anywhere near me they could come and play for me. If they really want to play I would scour the area where you live and see if there are rec leagues, church leagues, maybe someone runs something like I do...something to try and keep them involved.

 

Got 'em in a rec league in our county and also going to make the trek north to SOAS in Florence for them to play in the rec league. Feel free to PM me with your info please.