Who said it and who could he/she been directing the comment at?

UKMF towards DF, and I think UKMF's comment is just as far off base as DF's...

 

There has to be a happy medium between the two extremes.

Sharon Osbourne said it to Dina Lohan.

It wasn't directed at anyone in particular. But yeah, I was very surprised to see how overprotective many on here are towards their kids' facebook page. I mean, logging in and going through their personal messages? That's way past crossing a line of being a protective parent IMO. To me it makes me think the parent doesn't have any trust in the kid, or thinks the kid is hiding something.

It wasn't directed at anyone in particular. But yeah, I was very surprised to see how overprotective many on here are towards their kids' facebook page. I mean, logging in and going through their personal messages? That's way past crossing a line of being a protective parent IMO. To me it makes me think the parent doesn't have any trust in the kid, or thinks the kid is hiding something.

Have any kids yet? If not, it's easy to make a statement like that without knowing all that comes with being a parent. Even the best of kids can get themselves in over their head.

It wasn't directed at anyone in particular. But yeah, I was very surprised to see how overprotective many on here are towards their kids' facebook page. I mean, logging in and going through their personal messages? That's way past crossing a line of being a protective parent IMO. To me it makes me think the parent doesn't have any trust in the kid, or thinks the kid is hiding something.

I don't have any children, either, but I feel that I much more closely align with this thinking. I would allow my child to use social media and I would require that they friend me, but I wouldn't go through their personal messages. This would be true in the situation of a child that hasn't broken major trust. Otherwise, I'd have to take a harder stance.

It wasn't directed at anyone in particular. But yeah, I was very surprised to see how overprotective many on here are towards their kids' facebook page. I mean, logging in and going through their personal messages? That's way past crossing a line of being a protective parent IMO. To me it makes me think the parent doesn't have any trust in the kid, or thinks the kid is hiding something.

 

I used to feel the same way. Then I became a Dad & a lot of my theories went out the window. :lol:

I had 2 teenagers when Facebook became a "thing". I never had one until after my kids were adults. But I still was able to know what was going on with them because they have always been pretty open with me. In fact, except for a brief post-high school graduation period with my daughter, we're all still very open with each other.

I used to feel the same way. Then I became a Dad & a lot of my theories went out the window. :lol:

 

This...I want to trust them (a little easier now since they're still little), but I'll still be watchful of what they do.

A parent child relationship is not a democracy. In my house the child will trade freedom and privacy for their security. There are way to many creepy people in the world not to monitor who your child is communicating with. If that makes me creepy and over protective sobeit, but the chances that children under my roof will be subjected to creepers will be greatly reduced at least in the online world.

Have any kids yet? If not, it's easy to make a statement like that without knowing all that comes with being a parent. Even the best of kids can get themselves in over their head.

 

I absolutely agree with this. You can never say never when it comes to your kids. You may have one child that needs little or no "snooping" from you, but have another that absolutely does require it. I've had both.

I had 2 teenagers when Facebook became a "thing". I never had one until after my kids were adults. But I still was able to know what was going on with them because they have always been pretty open with me. In fact, except for a brief post-high school graduation period with my daughter, we're all still very open with each other.

 

Was that the "dark period" when she went on tour for a while with a Gypsy troupe and threatened to join the Bolshoi?

It wasn't directed at anyone in particular. But yeah, I was very surprised to see how overprotective many on here are towards their kids' facebook page. I mean, logging in and going through their personal messages? That's way past crossing a line of being a protective parent IMO. To me it makes me think the parent doesn't have any trust in the kid, or thinks the kid is hiding something.

 

All kids hide things from their parents, its part of being a kid. Now some things are minor (I gave my vegtables to the dog at dinner) and some major (I cant wait for the party friday, whos bringing the beer.)

 

I have no issue with a parent that request/demands to have access to their childs facebook account to read what friends are posting, what messages they send/get. No different then looking in their cell phones or emails. Yes there should be trust between a parent and a child. When the child proves to me (earns the trust), after significant time, that they can be trusted then perhaps the parent may not check as often. Yes if your child knows your checking these things, they will not post things, or may delete them before you see them. But in regards to facebook, you can check all their friends pages, see what they are posting, and have a general idea of what is going on in their life. I would bet that, when your 16 year old daughter comes home and says shes pregnant (or son comes home to say hes gonna be a dad) or that your child gets busted at a party for underage drinking, or worse drinking and driving under age, or gets busted by the cops for wrong place wrong time, or busted for drugs, the list goes on, you wish you would have checked these things. Maybe nothing directly posted, but there are always hints and clues.

Was that the "dark period" when she went on tour for a while with a Gypsy troupe and threatened to join the Bolshoi?

 

 

Close! :lol:

Have any kids yet? If not, it's easy to make a statement like that without knowing all that comes with being a parent. Even the best of kids can get themselves in over their head.

 

And I fully admitted in the other thread, that since I didn't have any children my stance could very easily change one day.