Divorce and Remarriage?

[hoopboy]

From a christian standpoint, if you've been divorced, is it okay to get remarried. What say you?

[Lucky Charms]

The beleif is that it is not OK to get a divorce. The bond between a man and a woman is sacred and one. IMO, having a marriage like that will bond the family to be stronger. I know when I say "I do" in two months I will never give up on her no matter what we are going through. It's a bond that is greater than any one's self.

[ladiesbballcoach]

The beleif is that it is not OK to get a divorce. The bond between a man and a woman is sacred and one. IMO, having a marriage like that will bond the family to be stronger. I know when I say "I do" in two months I will never give up on her no matter what we are going through. It's a bond that is greater than any one's self.

 

Let's see what Jesus had to say.

 

 

Matthew 5:30-32 (New International Version)

 

 

Divorce

31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[a] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

 

Well that seems pretty clear on the issue.

[cch5432]

^So that would indicate that divorce is OK but remarriage is not?

[acemona]

Let's see what Jesus had to say.

 

 

Matthew 5:30-32 (New International Version)

 

 

Divorce

31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[a] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

 

Well that seems pretty clear on the issue.

 

This suggests that a woman who is continually beaten by her husband, and her children are continually beaten by her husband will sin if she decides to divorce. This actully does not even give a WOMAN the ability to divorce a man who has an affair.

 

Does the woman actually sin for leaving an abusive relationship? Do you really think that is what Jesus intended? Honest question here, not baiting. Just doesn't seem like the most healthy solution.

[AirYardGo]

Well, if the marriage was annuled then remarriage would be ok. But if the Church deemed the divorce unnecessary, you could not be remarried in the Church.

[5wide]

^So that would indicate that divorce is OK but remarriage is not?

 

Actually, that verse would seem to say that divorce for adultery is OK, and the man can get re-married, but if anyone marries the woman, they would be committing adultery. Or did I miss something?:idunno:

[cch5432]

Actually, that verse would seem to say that divorce for adultery is OK, and the man can get re-married, but if anyone marries the woman, they would be committing adultery. Or did I miss something?:idunno:

Yes, I guess that makes more sense. Doesn't seem right though. Not at all.

[Alabama Larry]

After 7 years of marriage my first wife ran off with another man. So the verse in Matthew 5 fits my situation. I remarried and have been blessed by my wife and her family.

 

In my Church the Southern Baptist I cannot be a Pastor/Deacon/ or a staff member, because I have been divorced. I disagree with this, but respect their stance

 

My ex wife has remarried, and her husband left her.

 

I know a man who divorced his wife due to some other issues, not adultry and he has never remarried, and he shouldn't.

[ladiesbballcoach]

This suggests that a woman who is continually beaten by her husband, and her children are continually beaten by her husband will sin if she decides to divorce. This actully does not even give a WOMAN the ability to divorce a man who has an affair.

 

Does the woman actually sin for leaving an abusive relationship? Do you really think that is what Jesus intended? Honest question here, not baiting. Just doesn't seem like the most healthy solution.

 

I understand and really side with you on your post.

 

But Christianity is not LBBC's to decide what goes and what does not.

 

This is what Christ said, whether I like it or not.

 

NOW, if there is other Scripture that indicates something different, I would love to read it and study it. I long for that Scripture so that there is another option.

 

But if I am to follow Christ and this is what he said and nothing is added to it in other Scripture, than I don't have much choice in the matter.

 

Let me also add that all sin is forgiven by and through Christ if we repent and truly ask for His forgiveness and then lead a life that TRIES to avoid sin.

[cch5432]

I understand and really side with you on your post.

 

But Christianity is not LBBC's to decide what goes and what does not.

 

This is what Christ said, whether I like it or not.

 

NOW, if there is other Scripture that indicates something different, I would love to read it and study it. I long for that Scripture so that there is another option.

 

But if I am to follow Christ and this is what he said and nothing is added to it in other Scripture, than I don't have much choice in the matter.

 

Let me also add that all sin is forgiven by and through Christ if we repent and truly ask for His forgiveness and then lead a life that TRIES to avoid sin.

This is really where I get into trouble with fundamentalists, but this is why I don't believe the Bible was meant to be a text to be taken literally at all times. God granted us the ability to think and rationalize so that we don't justify situations (like mentioned by acemona) by Scripture. I can't imagine a God who would encourage the idea that a man can divorce and remarry, but a woman can not. More generally, I believe some of the things in the Bible (Old and New Testament) were written to a group of people in a culture different than our own, and this results in certain things in the Bible that simply aren't applicable today. I do realize that the difficult part is sorting through it all and breaking down whether the text was meant to be taken literally or not.

 

Personally, I believe that marriage a lifelong binding event. Two bodies become one flesh. I don't believe one should divorce in the first place, but if they should, they should not remarry unless it is proven that the marriage was never entered into validly. If many religious communities are going to allow divorce and remarriage to happen freely, then they need to remove the "till death do us part" part.

[5wide]

Yes, I guess that makes more sense. Doesn't seem right though. Not at all.

 

It doesn't. It also doesn't seem right that a person should be punished the rest of their life for something that was beyond their control. Some divorces happen regardless of how bad one person may want it not to.

 

That's why I think it might be beneficial to look at a little more than just one verse/quote from Jesus. Paul wrote a little more extensively on the subject, but by no means did he cover it exhaustively.

[PepRock01]

For what it's worth I am pretty happy with how the Catholic Church handles it. Since my annulment looks like it is going to be granted, I am extremely happy about it.

[5wide]

For what it's worth I am pretty happy with how the Catholic Church handles it. Since my annulment looks like it is going to be granted, I am extremely happy about it.

 

:lol:

[Xtiger69]

For what it's worth I am pretty happy with how the Catholic Church handles it. Since my annulment looks like it is going to be granted, I am extremely happy about it.

 

I got mine 10 years ago and remarried 7 years ago.. I have never been happier!