I'd be curious to hear from those who were actually held back to find out if they feel they were wronged in any way. My guess is that the overwhelming majority would say it was a good thing and thankful that they were held back.

 

I've never met a kid or parent who has been held back say it was the wrong thing to do.

 

Most that I have met say it was the best thing that ever happened to them.

Here's a Stat for you.

 

80% of professional Athletes have a birthday after July. Think there is a correlation there?

Here's a Stat for you.

 

80% of professional Athletes have a birthday after July. Think there is a correlation there?

 

 

A. How did you find such a stat?

 

B. How many of them were held back?

Very interesting discussion. IT is the parens right for whatever reason to have their child in whatever grade they want, not the school. What about all the kids that the school tries to get the parents to hold back for whatever reason and they won't ?

Very interesting discussion. IT is the parens right for whatever reason to have their child in whatever grade they want, not the school. What about all the kids that the school tries to get the parents to hold back for whatever reason and they won't ?

 

 

We had a foster daugter that a teacher wanted to hold back and I was against it and did not do it. The reason was because the teacher had told the students that they had a new student due to her being placed into foster care. Sarah, our daughter, was in first grade at the time. Because of this statement, she was picked on a lot. She did fine with everything at home, however, would not do anything at school. When PH and I were told that our child did not know how to read, we both laughed. We went to after school hours and took Sarah to the office and had her to read. The teacher was mad because she did read. Well, we finally got done with that year and everything went fine after all of that...in fact, she just recently graduated high school!!! PH and I are both very proud of her.

 

I think it depends on the situation. Does the child really have problems with the classes, or, are they just "playing dumb" at school? If they need extra time to learn, that is fine, if not, it is not fine....JMO

I see your point Mrs PH some teachers what can I say. Another reason for holding one back would be small in size and not as mature as they should be , but these should be discussed with parents , teachers and the administraton, all looking out for the welfare of the child.

Think it's each individuals decision to make, Their is no right or wrong only different. Love having our kids around a little longer. Lifes to short as it is.

It's a parental decision, pure and simple. Do many do it for their child to gain an edge in sports? Sure they do, but they are only doing what they feel is best for the child. As AJG stated, they almost always become better students and they tend to be the leaders in their classes.

 

I chose not to hold my kids back, but I refuse to judge others who chose to do what they felt was right for their child.

 

 

Amen and amen.

There are a lot of reasons to hold back a student. I think you look at maturity level compared to other students. Obviously parents do hold kids back primarily because of sports, but that is there decision. If a student is going to graduate at age 17 I don't see anything wrong with saying that is too young and parents aren't ready to send him or her off to college yet.

Fortunately the parents get to decide. Assuming that most parents will make the decision with their child’s best interests at heart; there is no one better. Because people are different – the right choices will be different.

 

In my oldest son’s case: he was a good high school athlete, a very good student and he was also mature for his age. We did not hold him back and I think that has proven to be the correct choice for him. He attends UK (Biology major) on academic scholarships. He earned a 4.0 GPA last year (his first) and successfully pledged Sigma Chi. He is loving college – to have held him back would have been a selfish act by his mother and me.

That's true some hold their child back because they don't want them to leave home.

That's true some hold their child back because they don't want them to leave home.

 

Wish I had that problem. Mine keep coming back.

Bottom line it is the PARENTS choice not ours, administrators of the schools or anybody else!!

Not true. If a school is being asked to hold back a student that academically there is zero reason to hold him back, I think it becomes a school issue, too.

Here's a Stat for you.

 

80% of professional Athletes have a birthday after July. Think there is a correlation there?

 

Can you back that stat up?:lol:

If a child is held back they will benefit athletically. They will also benefit from an extra year of maturation. I can not even count the number of 17 or young 18 year olds I have seen go off to college and be home a semester later because of lack of maturity. For those who say the kids are already good students, why hold them back, does anyone really think holding a kid back will make them worse students? I have never spoke to anyone who was held back that regretted the decision.