June 28, 20188 yr Starting dating right before Junior year (1990) in high school. Been married since 1997
June 28, 20188 yr Didn’t really “date” anyone in high school, but started dating my current wife the last day of my HS. Met at the prom and found out thru my dad that she had a thing for me. Didn’t realize it at the time but friends were trying to hook us up and they did. 7 years of dating and 31 years of marriage.
June 28, 20188 yr Can't believe this many of you wound up with your high school sweetheart. It certainly wasn’t what I thought would happen at 16. I figured we’d go a fairly standard couple of months and that’d be the end of it. But time kept passing, and the breakup never came. So thankful for that woman.
June 28, 20188 yr Didn’t really “date” anyone in high school, but started dating my current wife the last day of my HS. Met at the prom and found out thru my dad that she had a thing for me. Didn’t realize it at the time but friends were trying to hook us up and they did. 7 years of dating and 31 years of marriage. Was at a wedding last Saturday and they did one of those dances where they tell you to drop off after so many years. It was pretty cool hanging out there for so long. The couple that danced the longest was over 50 years!
June 28, 20188 yr Can't believe this many of you wound up with your high school sweetheart. I have to believe it's not anywhere near the norm. I know one couple I went to hs with that dated in HS, married and still is, and I always thought how rare that is today.
June 28, 20188 yr I toyed with how I might be able to contribute to this topic without coming off sounding like a sad sack, or singing the same old song that perhaps some have become bored with, but the good news is that by my 20's "It got better". I feel like one of the lucky ones, but can't but help to think of the so many others who battled inside much, if not all of their lives. Truth is any so called "sweethearts" during high school were just me either putting up a front to avoid scrutiny from my piers, siblings, and elders, or making a half hearted attempt at being "normal", like I was "supposed" to be. Anyhoo, the real good news is that today's kids to some degree have a better chance at just being themselves considering the overall societal push for people, gay, straight, or whatever to just be who they are rather than try to fit so perfectly into the box that is expected of them. I thought to avoid this thread all together so as to not risk ruining the fun spirit with which it was started, and I promise that I hope that I don't, but must admit that I couldn't avoid thinking about how as a teen how I so much just wanted to do as my friends, and go out on real dates, go to proms & school dances, or to just hold and kiss someone and really mean it, and not because I was faking it. Truly though I've long not been emotionally plagued, paralyzed, or stifled by society, and pretty much long ago made peace with myself, and through a year by year, day by day, step-by-step process grew more comfortable with allowing myself all the freedom that I needed to just happily live my life, and the foundation, no if's, and's, or but's for that was my loving understanding family and friends... so the last thing that I would want to portray here is that I'm feeling sorry for myself, or want anyone to feel sorry for me. Life is good. With all of that said, no matter how adjusted I ever became, thinking of that awkward stifling period in my life just seems to somehow forever strike a weird chord with me, and just what a lonely time it was while guarding myself so tightly for fear of letting the cat out of the bag, for if I had it would never go back in, and knowing the riff raff that I grew up around, I shudder to think of just how miserable it no doubt would have been. Afraid to just be myself.... It was no way to be. I celebrate now, because the once repressive Mainstrasse area of Covington where I grew up has gone through a huge cultural change, and a couple of weeks ago this revelation hit its peak as the NKY Pride with its tagline "Y'all means All" was held in the Goebel Park where I spent my entire childhood and teen years making great memories playing and hanging with friends while also daily dodging, and carefully calculating how to avoid the plethora of aggressive, misguided, raised-on-hate, bully types. I literally got goose bumps while listening to Mayor Joe Meyer's speech about the city's commitment to diversity, and prohibiting discrimination. Covington was one of the first cities in the state, and remains the only city in Northern Kentucky to codify its commitment to diversity. Back in 2003 the Covington City Commission passed a Human Rights Ordinance. Presently only 9 cities within the Commonwealth honor such protections with this ordinance. So while I might not be able to add to this thread like many of you have with a sweet wonderful story of a high school sweetheart, thankfully I can at least attest that "It got better" for me, and thankfully now for so many others too. I say all of this because while it might feel so normal for most here to have fun memories of their teens years, just as they should, be thankful that it all came so naturally and freely accepted with no need to think that you were taking anything for granted. It would be completely understandable that you might be inclined to think that everyone shared similar experiences as you. If it all came with no additional unnecessary pressures and fears, sadness, lonliness, and depressiion as it did for a significant portion of your silent piers then be thankful. While I say all of this, I want to be sure not to presume that only someone's orientation would be the only thing that might've made someone's teen years not as swell as others as I'm sure that there's also an assortment of other obstacles that others had experienced that might have made those awkward years for them more challenging than for others.
June 28, 20188 yr I have to believe it's not anywhere near the norm. I know one couple I went to hs with that dated in HS, married and still is, and I always thought how rare that is today. I graduated in a class of over 600, and can only think of 3 couples that are still together. Another handful did marry, but are no longer together. I had several girlfriends in high school, only a couple of which were anything serious. I am still friends with my last HS girlfriend, although we only speak occasionally through social media. My wife and I met our sophomore year in college, started dating our junior year, got engaged at 23 years old, and married at 24. We celebrate our 24th anniversary next week, and have been together for 28 years.
June 28, 20188 yr I have to believe it's not anywhere near the norm. I know one couple I went to hs with that dated in HS, married and still is, and I always thought how rare that is today. Probably more the norm the more rural you get.
June 28, 20188 yr I saw my HS sweetheart around Christmas this year, we still speak and are friendly. I actually like her husband and have golfed with him a few times randomly. We saw them in a restaurant, and their 2-3 kids were running wild. My wife looked at me and said that could've been you. Thank God it isn't.
June 28, 20188 yr Funny, after reading this thread yesterday I drempt about my high school sweetheart last night.
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