PP1 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 During a game, a parent was upset with the coach. The parent begins to criticize the coach to the coach's wife who is sitting in the stands with her children. I think this is extremely inappropriate to speak negatively about a coach, to his/her's spouse. Really low. Am I overreacting? Should I have stepped in and told the parent to back off? At what point does a bystander speak up?
Hellbird Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 During a game, a parent was upset with the coach. The parent begins to criticize the coach to the coach's wife who is sitting in the stands with her children. I think this is extremely inappropriate to speak negatively about a coach, to his/her's spouse. Really low. Am I overreacting? Should I have stepped in and told the parent to back off? At what point does a bystander speak up? I think I would have stepped in. But it isn't fair for me to say that unless I was put in that position.
sweet16 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 During a game, a parent was upset with the coach. The parent begins to criticize the coach to the coach's wife who is sitting in the stands with her children. I think this is extremely inappropriate to speak negatively about a coach, to his/her's spouse. Really low. Am I overreacting? Should I have stepped in and told the parent to back off? At what point does a bystander speak up? Very inappropriate
Lawnboy13 Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 During a game, a parent was upset with the coach. The parent begins to criticize the coach to the coach's wife who is sitting in the stands with her children. I think this is extremely inappropriate to speak negatively about a coach, to his/her's spouse. Really low. Am I overreacting? Should I have stepped in and told the parent to back off? At what point does a bystander speak up? Completely uncalled for. This is why all coaches need to have a player/parent meeting before the season starts to set some rules so this doesn't happen. I understand that setting rules isn't going to stop some folks, but this "said" parent should be ashamed. As far as stepping in, I think that's when a school official (AD), needs to be called in.
CincySportsFan Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 Completely uncalled for. This is why all coaches need to have a player/parent meeting before the season starts to set some rules so this doesn't happen. I understand that setting rules isn't going to stop some folks, but this "said" parent should be ashamed. As far as stepping in, I think that's when a school official (AD), needs to be called in. This.
BirdBrain Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 If I were a coach, and this had been Mrs. Birdbrain….she would likely have knocked said parent out of the stands. A parent like this clearly has a poor understanding of high school sports or the protocol that should be followed.
kyyank Posted February 17, 2014 Posted February 17, 2014 You're going to have to give us the coach's name so we have some context and can start guessing who the parent is.
scon36 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 If it happened to be a female coach, do you think the parent would approach the husband? In most cases I say no. Therefore it isn't acceptable to approach the coach's wife either. They're there to support their spouse, not to referee the battle between parents and coaches. Give it the 24 hours and then think about talking to the coach.
gobigblue9 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 During a game, a parent was upset with the coach. The parent begins to criticize the coach to the coach's wife who is sitting in the stands with her children. I think this is extremely inappropriate to speak negatively about a coach, to his/her's spouse. Really low. Am I overreacting? Should I have stepped in and told the parent to back off? At what point does a bystander speak up? Was it a JV game or Varsity?
lawildcat Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 If I had been sitting there and knew it was the coach's family, I would have definitely stepped in even if to just draw the idiot away from his family. I'll never understand people who think it's ok to say negative things to coaches, players, refs, etc. at high school games. To also do it to their families in the stands is entirely beyond comprehension. People should not tolerate this type of behavior.
I4C Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I've spoke up before when parents were getting on players of their own team. You want to see the animal come out in someone just start bashing their kids. Usually if someone is bashing a coach I'll give them the 40 question routine on how they would coach that situation, and tell them if they feel that strongly about it to apply for a coaching job. You'll usually find out that these are the same people that don't put in a single minute to help out the organization but are the 1st ones to complain about everything. They don't help with concessions, fundraising or anything else that benefits the "team" and that puts their own kid under a microscope for their mistakes. It's gotten really bad over the years and in no way shape or form should the family of a coach or family of a player have to defend them at a game. If administration isn't going to put these parents in their place then maybe a group of parents form a committee that when something like this takes place, the committee steps in. Would be very intimidating to have about 10 fathers confront the parent and put him in his place and may even force the administration to grow a set of kahunas and step in.
gobigblue9 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I've spoke up before when parents were getting on players of their own team. You want to see the animal come out in someone just start bashing their kids. Usually if someone is kbashing a coach I'll give them the 40 question routine on how they would coach that situation, and tell them if they feel that strongly about it to apply for a coaching job. You'll usually find out that these are the same people that don't put in a single minute to help out the organization but are the 1st ones to complain about everything. They don't help with concessions, fundraising or anything else that benefits the "team" and that puts their own kid under a microscope for their mistakes. It's gotten really bad over the years and in no way shape or form should the family of a coach or family of a player have to defend them at a game. If administration isn't going to put these parents in their place then maybe a group of parents form a committee that when something like this takes place, the committee steps in. Would be very intimidating to have about 10 fathers confront the parent and put him in his place and may even force the administration to grow a set of kahunas and step in. I agree 100%
Dave63 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I've spoke up before when parents were getting on players of their own team. You want to see the animal come out in someone just start bashing their kids. Usually if someone is bashing a coach I'll give them the 40 question routine on how they would coach that situation, and tell them if they feel that strongly about it to apply for a coaching job. You'll usually find out that these are the same people that don't put in a single minute to help out the organization but are the 1st ones to complain about everything. They don't help with concessions, fundraising or anything else that benefits the "team" and that puts their own kid under a microscope for their mistakes. It's gotten really bad over the years and in no way shape or form should the family of a coach or family of a player have to defend them at a game. If administration isn't going to put these parents in their place then maybe a group of parents form a committee that when something like this takes place, the committee steps in. Would be very intimidating to have about 10 fathers confront the parent and put him in his place and may even force the administration to grow a set of kahunas and step in. agree! however there is a big difference between 'not helping' with the organization and hurting the organization. Player bashing and coach bashing is a cancer to a team.
I4C Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 agree! however there is a big difference between 'not helping' with the organization and hurting the organization. Player bashing and coach bashing is a cancer to a team. Agree. Without a doubt there is a difference. I was just stating that most of the time (from what I have seen) the parents that don't help out are usually the ones doing all the complaining which destroys team chemistry before a coach can even develop it. Coach will never be able to coach a kid with parents like that because they will never be able to earn their respect. If the parents are that ignorant to act like that at the game can you imagine what the ride home is like? I believe it's a growing concern that has gotten worse every year. Sometimes a player's greatest challenge is coming to grips with his role on the team. (I guess it's the parents greatest challenge as well)
sweet16 Posted February 18, 2014 Posted February 18, 2014 I've spoke up before when parents were getting on players of their own team. You want to see the animal come out in someone just start bashing their kids. Usually if someone is bashing a coach I'll give them the 40 question routine on how they would coach that situation, and tell them if they feel that strongly about it to apply for a coaching job. You'll usually find out that these are the same people that don't put in a single minute to help out the organization but are the 1st ones to complain about everything. They don't help with concessions, fundraising or anything else that benefits the "team" and that puts their own kid under a microscope for their mistakes. It's gotten really bad over the years and in no way shape or form should the family of a coach or family of a player have to defend them at a game. If administration isn't going to put these parents in their place then maybe a group of parents form a committee that when something like this takes place, the committee steps in. Would be very intimidating to have about 10 fathers confront the parent and put him in his place and may even force the administration to grow a set of kahunas and step in. I would love to have you as a parent of one of my players.
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