I follow the same rule my Dad followed when I was in school. The coach would not hear from my Dad unless the coach put his hands on me like I was a man. ( punch or hit me )

I'm not saying coaches are infallible, The title of the thread referred to coaches versus parents. Parents should not decide if the coach is doing a good job, they see the game thru tinted glasses. The administration should be the ones to review their performance. Parents have a complaint, take it up with the administration.

 

I agree parents can be crazy. I just don't believe a parent should have zero say in who is influencing their child either.

I agree parents can be crazy. I just don't believe a parent should have zero say in who is influencing their child either.

 

Do you also yell at their teachers if they are not properly educating your child? I'm assuming you seek the aid of the administration? They spend a lot more time influencing your child than coaches do.

I'm okmwith expressing your opinions, but I think they need to be delivered through the proper channels.

As both a former high school coach and administrator, this was always an issue and will always be one. The #1 thing to do as a coach is have the parent meeting explaining to them your philosophies and the realities of what to expect. Acknowledge there may be frustrations and give them the avenue to share their concerns. I never met with a parent when they were angry following a game, I just kept moving and politely said, call me Monday to set up a time to meet. Most of the time they never did and when they did, it was in an environment that I could control. Didn't always work, but did a vast majority of the time. The player almost always knew the issue and felt they were being treated fairly. As an administrator, I always supportred the coach on playing time ( which was usually 90% of the issues). There were times when the coach was wrong, usually losing their cool and then using profanity, getting physical, or just saying something inappropriate. I then dealt with the coach in the fairest manner to stop the behavior. I had to give a few written reprimands and suspensions (very few), but they were agregious infractions. No easy solution, but proactive actions, as in most things, leads to fewer headaches.

Do you also yell at their teachers if they are not properly educating your child? I'm assuming you seek the aid of the administration? They spend a lot more time influencing your child than coaches do.

I'm okmwith expressing your opinions, but I think they need to be delivered through the proper channels.

 

Not to hi-jack the thread, but that's what society/public perception expects us to say.

 

That might be true for those who didn't play sports, band, etc; , but my coaches are the ones (who also happened to be some of my teachers, too) I still call up to this day (and, not just about sports; often times, the last topic of discussion) years after my high school and college years.

 

As far as everything else, I agree 110%. :thumb:

How much time did the kid get?

 

That's just it, over the course of the season, he played a lot. This particular game, he might have gotten about 4 minutes or so. Didn't happen again and I have a great relationship with the parents and their kids are great. But that particular game it got s little uncomfortable.

I was a 5th/6th grade boys basketball coach for a few years. While I agree plenty of problem parents, I can tell you from my experinence not enough attention goes toward coaches. Parents aren't always the problem. Not all coaches truly get the game even more so on 1-8 level. All schools are different and thats my point. I can tell you if I had a kid playing for a few of the coaches I coached against I'd probably be upset to.

 

I was basing my comments more on the high school level rather than the younger age groups. But I agree, there are coaches at the younger levels who, to be nice don't know a lot about the game...to be brutally honest are absolutely clueless. However, in lots of these situations, the coaches are many times volunteers and even sometimes, like me, not only NOT getting paid, but actually help support the program out of the own pocket, so it's hard, at least to me, to criticize someone who's doing that unless they are actually harming the kid in some way. I guess the way to solve that would be for the coaches to just learn the game and be...well...like me, a first rate world class coach whos right ALL the time and NEVER makes mistakes.:ohbrother::lol2:

Yes it is bad!

Unless the parents sit in on every practice, see what the coaches see, understand the chemistry, understand the coaches philosophies, they should stay out of the coaches business. It should be up to the administration who does the hiring and firing of these coaches to better understand what is going on in the coaches minds. If a coach is that bad, shouldn't the ones that hire and fire him be held accountable as well? nobody ever blames the AD or principal for a bad hire. They always blame the coach.

 

How should concerned parents handle this when the Head Coach is the AD and the principle is not a strong athletic advocate. I think you just have to trust that the coach has the kids best interest at heart and let them do their job. But not everyone will take that road.