I'm an old coach who is up way past my bedtime. I was in the coaching business for over 30 years. I've been reading a lot of the comments on this site, but I've never felt like I needed to say anything until now, especially since no one seems to understand how or why we coaches rank players.

 

First of all, ALL coaches can tell after the first four or five practices where their majority of their players rank. I would always meet with my staff after the first week of practice, and we would rank all of our players at that time. We'd talk it over if we had a huge disparity and make sure we weren't missing something. We would then ask the players to rate themselves. We wanted the see if the kids were realistic BEFORE we got too far along. If a team or a business is to be successful, everyone needs to know their role and where they stand. Honestly is ALWAYS the best policy. I never lied, mislead, or deceived a kid. No coach should. Sometimes a certain player would rate herself way too high, when as coaches we rated her at the other end. There is NO WAY we were going into a season with a player thinking she was one of the best when she clearly wasn't. So, we'd talk to her and explain what we saw. We'd talk with everyone individually and explain what we viewed as a player's strengths and weaknesses, explaining how as coaches we would do everything we could to help her improve. If that's wrong to do, then parents are living in a fantasy land. Life is all about improving your weaknesses, but some people never figure out what their weaknesses are and go through their entire lives struggling. Your coach is doing you a HUGE favor. Your daughter has the entire season to work on her weaknesses and improve her talent. That's a good thing, Mom.

 

Oh, yeah...one more thing. The only parents who were ever upset or complained seemed to be those who had daughters who grossly over-exaggerated their talent level and then heard the TRUTH from the coaching staff. If your daughter doesn't agree with her evaluation, tell her to do something about it. Prove the coaches wrong by playing harder than anyone. Come early and stay late. If it really is that important to her, have her make a list of EVERYTHING she's going to do to prove herself and then show the list to the coaches. What exactly is your daughter doing to get better? She's SCARED to talk to the coach? Sorry...not an acceptable excuse.

 

Did I mention that I retired after a very successful career because too many parents seem to take pleasure in stirring up trouble instead of encouraging their athletes to come face to face and talk to the coach, you know, like they are going to have to do in the real world if they ever have a problem, get a bad evaluation on a job, or have a run-in with the boss or a co-worker? Sports offers so many opportunities to learn real life lessons...this is one of those times.

 

It's NEVER wrong for coaches to be honest with kids so that kids, coaches, AND parents know EXACTLY where they stand. Perhaps the coach should have cut your daughter and not even given her a chance to develop the talent you claim she has. No, I don't think you would have wanted that.

 

I'm done. It's time for my milk of magnesia.

 

BINGO, BINGO, BINGO. :notworthy: A wise old man once told me, "you always go with your best".

OK I think 1 is 5, 2 is 6, 6 is 3, 4 is 12, and 7 is 4 for sure.

 

:idunno:

:isurrender: Geez this is out of hand. We will look forward to seeing your kid play bumpster:D

 

Me and BGH in agreement. :sssh:

Was rearranging the Camel Numbering System after today :thumb:

Well thank you old boy. I knew you'd come around sooner or later and agree with my wisdom. :laugh: You still haven't told us how your daughter did bumpster. Are you still there?

Me and BGH in agreement. :sssh:

OK I think 1 is 5, 2 is 6, 6 is 3, 4 is 12, and 7 is 4 for sure.

 

I suggest you lay off the pickle juice. :lol:

Number one didn't get a hit today.

Number one didn't get a hit today.

 

I was mildly entertained but now I'm really confused. Is that number one on the coach's list? Number one on your list? Number one on the new list after today's game? The pitcher? The girl wearing #1 on her jersey? or your daughter who's number one in your heart?

No they numbered the players and pitcher was No. 1 like in

VP Voting and she gave up 4-5 runs and went hitless

She give up 4-5 runs or were they from all those errors you complainef about?

No they numbered the players and pitcher was No. 1 like in

VP Voting and she gave up 4-5 runs and went hitless

Both they hit them hard

She give up 4-5 runs or were they from all those errors you complainef about?

She give up 4-5 runs or were they from all those errors you complainef about?

 

Your life will be much better if you just ignore him/her!

Who? Oh well I gotta put the kids to bed. Have a nice night. Work calls at 7 AM

Camelbump Enough is Enough you need to move on and enjoy the games or stay home. Our daughter played under the former coach since she was in the 8th grade and we liked him, he knew softball. She got into some varisty games as an 8th grader and started some as a freshman. This year her hitting was not where is was suppose to be so she is playing JV. She is now determined to get better and earn some varsit time. She is very supportive of her teammates and friends and so are we. Let's leave the other players out of your conversations you are talking about young girls. Our pitcher does a fine job! You do not speak for everyone and not everyone agrees with you. Maybe you should take a lesson from the girls on how to handle the situation. Not everyone agrees with their bosses but you have a job to do and you do it, chalk this up to a life lesson for your daughter it will make her stronger in the future. Sandy is doing quite fine. It is a hard thankless job with little pay, obviously she is doing it for the girls. By the way I have been a member of bgp for a few years now and this is my 1st post I could not take the negativity anymore.

I think this thread has outlived it's life :deadhorse: Or something like that