Like I said, you can tell your close friends and family that you prefer the cash, just don't put "We Need Cash, No Gifts" on your invites! :lol:

 

We really should've had this talk before I sent these to the printer... :ohbrother::idunno:

We really should've had this talk before I sent these to the printer... :ohbrother::idunno:

 

My daddy always told me "Say what you mean, and mean what you say." :lol:

We really should've had this talk before I sent these to the printer... :ohbrother::idunno:

 

:laugh::laugh::laugh:Let me know how it works out for you. I may have to use your idea for a 15th anniversary party!

Candlesticks make a good gift. Maybe a place setting. Find out where she's registered

 

Nice one Scribe! :clap::clap::clap:

 

Thankfully for me I don't care about bad taste. :banana:

 

:lol::lol::lol::lol:

 

We really should've had this talk before I sent these to the printer... :ohbrother::idunno:

 

That is AWESOME!!!! :laugh::laugh::laugh:

 

 

Ok now back to the actual question.

 

No, you should not ask for cash. It is very tacky!!!!! However not being registered anywhere might help because then the easiest gift to give is cash. Now the problem is when you are not registered then some people go buy some crappy gift you didn't need in the first place. :lol::lol:

 

I suggest you register a few items some place as well as let the parents and word of mouth be you want cash. I would use the down payment on a house reason...not a fancy honeymoon reason. :thumb:

I think we have the solution to our problems.

 

We've decided to register at the typical places you register and then also with our travel agent. We're going to tell anyone who would get us a gift worth a substansial amount (my parents, our aunts, uncles, grandparents and close friends) that we would prefer a contribution towards our honeymoon.

 

Thanks for all the input:thumb:

Hangman, well done.:lol:

Yes, unfortunately it is always in bad taste to ask for cash. The honeymoon registry would be fine, though. The best way to go about asking is simply word of mouth. Tell your parents, friends, other relatives, etc and ask them to spread the word. You could also ask some close friends if they would consider throwing you a "Honeymoon Shower" and make it beach-themed, or wherever you plan to go. People could contribute to your registry, or maybe give you beach towels, sunscreen, etc. I would guess many would give you cash, as well.

 

I'm going along with Beechwoodfan here, your wedding is the perfect opportunity to ask for things you will NEVER buy for yourselves. When you are in your 30s and 40s and decide to entertain, you will be glad you have that "fancy china." Today, there are many nice, moderate china patterns that can be used as both everyday and special times. Also, ask for some nice sheets and bath towels. Big, thick bath towels are a wonderful small luxury and people love to buy them for newlyweds.

 

Believe me, the things you think you need now and what you are going to want when you own your own home in your mid-30s and older are completely different. Make sure you use this wonderful opportunity to get some fabulous gifts that you will appreciate as you get older. When I got married at 22, I had no use for china and crystal. Flash-forward to 37--I have a gorgeous china cabinet with lighting that showcases all my china and crystal. It is absolutely beautiful and guests always comment on it. Sure, I had to box up my stuff for several years after the wedding because I had no where to put it, but now I am so thankful for it.

 

Honestly, I know how important the honeymoon is. We planned and studied places and looked so forward to it. And it was all we dreamed about and more. But the reality is this--it is one week (or so) and then you come home and get to start your lives together. In my opinion, it would be a huge mistake to blow all your cash and potential gifts on your honeymoon, and come home and it all be over. I've been married almost 15 years and not a day goes by that I don't use something I got for our wedding. Also, one of the joys of getting married for a bride is getting to open gifts. I remember all those gifts coming to my parents' house and my in laws' house and it was so much fun to open them together. I'm not saying to not have an awesome honeymoon, but try not to sacrifice one for the other. Good luck--it is an exciting time! :thumb:

Excellent post.

 

Go register, and do it right. You are starting a new life. Might as well start off with new cookware, formal and everyday flatware, and some good appliances. If you do not register, be prepared to receive a bunch of mismatched towels, elephant shaped salsa bowls, and pewter colored picture frames.

Excellent post.

 

Go register, and do it right. You are starting a new life. Might as well start off with new cookware, formal and everyday flatware, and some good appliances. If you do not register, be prepared to receive a bunch of mismatched towels, elephant shaped salsa bowls, and pewter colored picture frames.

 

You've literally described everything I own as if it were a bad thing... Thanks, bugatti.

You've literally described everything I own as if it were a bad thing... Thanks, bugatti.

That is what I am here for.

 

And what you have now is fine, but you will eventually want good stuff I presume. Some people never do though.

I actually don't have elephant shaped salsa bowls... But now that you mention them, I must buy some.

This is a question for the ladies as the majority of you are much more tasteful than we men are

 

Simple question: Is it tacky to ask for cash as a wedding gift ? If it's not, what is the best way of going about asking ?

 

I'm getting married in October. We don't need fancy new china, we don't need new furniture, the microwave I own looks and works great. In short, we just really don't need much. The items we recieve as gifts would likely be returned or never used.

 

I would like to ask for cash for two reasons. Either an awesome honeymoon that doesn't come from my savings account. Or cash to add to my savings account for a down payment on a home in the future. We're fortunate and we don't have to pay for our wedding. Is asking for cash as a gift unacceptable ?

 

If you want cash, just register at Bed Bath & Beyond. They give you cash for all your returned items (at least they did 6 years ago). :thumb:

If you want cash, just register at Bed Bath & Beyond. They give you cash for all your returned items (at least they did 6 years ago). :thumb:

 

Sounds like we have a winner!

I actually don't have elephant shaped salsa bowls... But now that you mention them, I must buy some.

 

Don't worry, you'll probably get some for your wedding!