Stay with it , it will soon be over.:ylsuper:

Plenty of blame to go around for all groups involved (kids. parents and coaches)

 

Kids need to learn to respect authority and be able to handle some criticism without running home to mom and dad every time they get their feelings hurt.

 

Parents need to teach their kids to respect authority and to work harder to improve. Most good coaches will take notice and reward a kids hard work.

 

Coaches need to remember the reason they got into coaching was to make a positive difference in a kids life and also to understand that not all kids respond in the same manner. Coaches need to be fair, firm and CONSISTENT in how they deal with kids. They need to remember that as coaches they are entrusted to care for our kids and with that comes a great deal of responsiblity.

 

Honestly I've grown sick of kids saying the coach doesn't like me, of parents saying the coach doesn't like my kid or plays favorites and coaches saying parents are out to get them. Everyone needs to maybe step back and look in the mirror and do a little self examination. I think everyone if they are honest with themselves will find that they each have a certain amount of guilt to own up to.

 

As for the situation in this thread I believe it would make someone look foolish and immature to stop doing what you do for the team in the middle of the year. Don't embarass yourself or your child. Be the bigger person and let others be made to look like the fools. At least thats the way I have tried to deal with certain immature behavior by others in my life.

Plenty of blame to go around for all groups involved (kids. parents and coaches)

 

Kids need to learn to respect authority and be able to handle some criticism without running home to mom and dad every time they get their feelings hurt.

 

Parents need to teach their kids to respect authority and to work harder to improve. Most good coaches will take notice and reward a kids hard work.

 

Coaches need to remember the reason they got into coaching was to make a positive difference in a kids life and also to understand that not all kids respond in the same manner. Coaches need to be fair, firm and CONSISTENT in how they deal with kids. They need to remember that as coaches they are entrusted to care for our kids and with that comes a great deal of responsiblity.

 

Honestly I've grown sick of kids saying the coach doesn't like me, of parents saying the coach doesn't like my kid or plays favorites and coaches saying parents are out to get them. Everyone needs to maybe step back and look in the mirror and do a little self examination. I think everyone if they are honest with themselves will find that they each have a certain amount of guilt to own up to.

 

As for the situation in this thread I believe it would make someone look foolish and immature to stop doing what you do for the team in the middle of the year. Don't embarass yourself or your child. Be the bigger person and let others be made to look like the fools. At least thats the way I have tried to deal with certain immature behavior by others in my life.

 

I agree whole heartedly!

I have a feeling that this has already happened. Just because you volunteer doesn't mean that yur child gets more playing time. Quit ! !

I have a feeling this "hypothetical" situation either isn`t hypothetical or soon won`t be hypothetical. When will this become a reality?

 

:sssh: No one seems to want to answer the question.

Plenty of blame to go around for all groups involved (kids. parents and coaches)

 

Kids need to learn to respect authority and be able to handle some criticism without running home to mom and dad every time they get their feelings hurt.

 

Parents need to teach their kids to respect authority and to work harder to improve. Most good coaches will take notice and reward a kids hard work.

 

Coaches need to remember the reason they got into coaching was to make a positive difference in a kids life and also to understand that not all kids respond in the same manner. Coaches need to be fair, firm and CONSISTENT in how they deal with kids. They need to remember that as coaches they are entrusted to care for our kids and with that comes a great deal of responsiblity.

 

Honestly I've grown sick of kids saying the coach doesn't like me, of parents saying the coach doesn't like my kid or plays favorites and coaches saying parents are out to get them. Everyone needs to maybe step back and look in the mirror and do a little self examination. I think everyone if they are honest with themselves will find that they each have a certain amount of guilt to own up to.

 

As for the situation in this thread I believe it would make someone look foolish and immature to stop doing what you do for the team in the middle of the year. Don't embarass yourself or your child. Be the bigger person and let others be made to look like the fools. At least thats the way I have tried to deal with certain immature behavior by others in my life.

 

I agree 100%--Excellent post:ylsuper:

Is this a serious questions? Kids not getting enough shots on a winning team? If someone is honestly considering quitting due to a lack of shots for their kids I can only hope these kids find a better role model than at home.

:sssh: No one seems to want to answer the question.

 

Good point. I would imagine this situation has already occured more than once in the past. I wonder if there is a possible 16th region connection although I realize this is a hypothetical situation??

Good point. I would imagine this situation has already occured more than once in the past. I wonder if there is a possible 16th region connection although I realize this is a hypothetical situation??

 

I would say you are spot on in your assumption to this being connected to the 16th.

A parent or any other volunteer for that matter should never do something expecting something in return.

 

There is no "quid pro quo" in these situations.

Parents need to parent and stay out of the coaching business. We all have something or another we don't like, but parents ARE NOT at practices, meetings, classes etc., and thus, not well informed in that regard. LET THE COACH DO HIS JOB!

 

No offense because I agree to a point with what you say but your comment sounds like typical paranoid coachspeak that I have heard from a number of very insecure coaches who maybe need to take a look once and awhile with how they do their job.

No offense because I agree to a point with what you say but your comment sounds like typical paranoid coachspeak that I have heard from a number of very insecure coaches who maybe need to take a look once and awhile with how they do their job.

 

Well that is easy to say, but the fact is most parents have no clue as to the challenges and pressures to which coaches are subjected. Who is more likely to be biased about a child? The coach or the parent? I am sure that there have some situations where coaches have had personal issues with a parent, but I would say 99% of these problems arise due to the fact that parents have the blinders on.

Advice to coaches- don't let parents do things that are important to the team. It never works out.

Disagree with it never works out. Parents can be a valuable resource to the coach if boundaries are set and roles defined. Parents can keep the scorebook, be timekeepper, keep stats, etc. I've seen several parents (including myself) perform these duties and everything worked well and the coaches were very appreciative. The key is: don't get involved with the coaching aspects because you are not the coach. Just do your job and go home. You must realize your child's capabilities (not every child is an All American even though we all want them to be) and the role he plays on the team. Be objective, supportive and positive. If you do this, things will work out for everyone. You, your child and the coach will enjoy the season.

Well that is easy to say, but the fact is most parents have no clue as to the challenges and pressures to which coaches are subjected. Who is more likely to be biased about a child? The coach or the parent? I am sure that there have some situations where coaches have had personal issues with a parent, but I would say 99% of these problems arise due to the fact that parents have the blinders on.

 

With all due respect I would simply refer you back to my original post (32) on this thread and show that I say that the blame can be equally distributed amongest the kids, parents and coaches.

I have known a great many coaches over the years and several are very close friends so I hold good coaches in very high regard. The problem I see more of these days is that some of the coaches are as immature as some of the parents. Oh and they are never ever wrong. Your statement that most parents have no clue is one that I hear alot from insecure coaches when in reality they may have quite a bit of knowledge about a sport and they just chose not to get into the coaching profession.

As I said there is plenty of blame to go around and shared EQUALLY. COACHES INCLUDED.

With all due respect I would simply refer you back to my original post (32) on this thread and show that I say that the blame can be equally distributed amongest the kids, parents and coaches.

I have known a great many coaches over the years and several are very close friends so I hold good coaches in very high regard. The problem I see more of these days is that some of the coaches are as immature as some of the parents. Oh and they are never ever wrong. Your statement that most parents have no clue is one that I hear alot from insecure coaches when in reality they may have quite a bit of knowledge about a sport and they just chose not to get into the coaching profession.

As I said there is plenty of blame to go around and shared EQUALLY. COACHES INCLUDED.

 

All I am saying is that coaches are an easy target. Most dedicate their lives to the profession, and it is certainly not for money. In the situation described in this thread, the team was doing well, but the parent is worried about the individual success of his or her child. Do you really think the coach should mess with what is obviously working to appease this parent that wants the spotlight for his/her kid?