With all due respect I would simply refer you back to my original post (32) on this thread and show that I say that the blame can be equally distributed amongest the kids, parents and coaches.

I have known a great many coaches over the years and several are very close friends so I hold good coaches in very high regard. The problem I see more of these days is that some of the coaches are as immature as some of the parents. Oh and they are never ever wrong. Your statement that most parents have no clue is one that I hear alot from insecure coaches when in reality they may have quite a bit of knowledge about a sport and they just chose not to get into the coaching profession.

As I said there is plenty of blame to go around and shared EQUALLY. COACHES INCLUDED.

 

 

Since this is a hypothetical post, I'll say this. If this situation were true somewhere, I'll guarantee you that your post does not apply to this possible situation. I know what you are saying, but if this situation were possible somewhere;) I would say this situation has a lot less to do with the coach and more to do with the parent and I blame nothing on the kid, I'm positive the kid is a good kid(unfortunately parents can negatively influence kids), but this post is hypothetical, of course.

Since this is a hypothetical post, I'll say this. If this situation were true somewhere, I'll guarantee you that your post does not apply to this possible situation. I know what you are saying, but if this situation were possible somewhere;) I would say this situation has a lot less to do with the coach and more to do with the parent, hypothetically of course.

 

Great post!!!

All I am saying is that coaches are an easy target. Most dedicate their lives to the profession, and it is certainly not for money. In the situation described in this thread, the team was doing well, but the parent is worried about the individual success of his or her child. Do you really think the coach should mess with what is obviously working to appease this parent that wants the spotlight for his/her kid?

 

:thumb:I agree and think most of would that the situation described at the beginning of this thread is ridiculous and quite embarassing if true. Hopefully the parent will rethink his decision in this matter before he acts. I do apoligize for getting off track just a bit.

As for coaching it like alot of other jobs isn't always easy and you have to learn to take the good with the bad. Coaching is a very honorable profession and as such I expect coaches to be honorable people of the highest character. Most are and I respect that. Some aren't and those are the ones that need to find another profession.:ylsuper:

Since this is a hypothetical post, I'll say this. If this situation were true somewhere, I'll guarantee you that your post does not apply to this possible situation. I know what you are saying, but if this situation were possible somewhere;) I would say this situation has a lot less to do with the coach and more to do with the parent and I blame nothing on the kid, I'm positive the kid is a good kid(unfortunately parents can negatively influence kids), but this post is hypothetical, of course.

 

:thumb: Agree 100% if this situation were true.

Plenty of blame to go around for all groups involved (kids. parents and coaches)

 

Kids need to learn to respect authority and be able to handle some criticism without running home to mom and dad every time they get their feelings hurt.

 

Parents need to teach their kids to respect authority and to work harder to improve. Most good coaches will take notice and reward a kids hard work.

 

Coaches need to remember the reason they got into coaching was to make a positive difference in a kids life and also to understand that not all kids respond in the same manner. Coaches need to be fair, firm and CONSISTENT in how they deal with kids. They need to remember that as coaches they are entrusted to care for our kids and with that comes a great deal of responsiblity.

 

Honestly I've grown sick of kids saying the coach doesn't like me, of parents saying the coach doesn't like my kid or plays favorites and coaches saying parents are out to get them. Everyone needs to maybe step back and look in the mirror and do a little self examination. I think everyone if they are honest with themselves will find that they each have a certain amount of guilt to own up to.

 

As for the situation in this thread I believe it would make someone look foolish and immature to stop doing what you do for the team in the middle of the year. Don't embarass yourself or your child. Be the bigger person and let others be made to look like the fools. At least thats the way I have tried to deal with certain immature behavior by others in my life.

Now this is a well-rounded, objective response to that so-called "hypothetical situation." Thank you for recognizing that a situation like this may involve the parent, player, coach and I'd even say other teammates.

Now this is a well-rounded, objective response to that so-called "hypothetical situation." Thank you for recognizing that a situation like this may involve the parent, player, coach and I'd even say other teammates.

 

A right on post for both of you. I also believe it is a so called sitituation. :thumb:

Added response to Hamilton Joe - Parents, coaches and players can impact each other. There are many angles from which to approach a situation such as this and then form an opinion.

Why does it matter how many shots your kids are getting....especially if the TEAM is winning? If it matters that much, then they should not be playing a TEAM sport.

Why does it matter how many shots your kids are getting....especially if the TEAM is winning? If it matters that much, then they should not be playing a TEAM sport.

 

GREAT post. The kid should play golf, tennins, or run track where there individual talents will be the main focus.

GREAT post. The kid should play golf, tennins, or run track where there individual talents will be the main focus.

 

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I found that a wife or husband of the coach or a family member of the coach is good. A random paid person would probaly be best.

I dont think there is a problem with parents helping out the team in good faith but you have to stay committed to the team. It doesnt matter if your kid is the star or the last one on the bench. Doesnt matter if they are struggling or coach gets on them more than others. Do your job, suck it up and get through the season. There is more to life than high school basketball. Quitting and making it evident to your own kids that you quit due to this situation would be the worst lesson of them all to teach them.

Any adult that would bring up a situation like this on an internet thread is NOT a functional adult in society!

 

I pity the organization/company that has to deal with this "employee" each day.

Any adult that would bring up a situation like this on an internet thread is NOT a functional adult in society!

 

I pity the organization/company that has to deal with this "employee" each day.

 

:thumb: Why doesn't he come back on here and respond .

Has he or she just disappeared! ! ! !