It should be up to the kid, if he/she wants another year let em have it.

 

My brother is a 7th grader and if he wanted to be held back we'd do it in a heart beat, however he has never mentioned it so we never bring it up.

The school is not required to allow you to just decide to hold a student back right? Anyone know the law on this? We are told it is up to the principal at the school.

 

It's not hard to have the kid fail the last month of school and have to be held back if this is the case..

Only hold your child back for learning reason's. Our oldest son was in the first grade and his teacher swore up and down he had ADD. She wanted us to hold him back in the 1st grade. We had him tested at a center, and he did not have ADD. We changed school districts and we explained this to his new teacher. We told her if she thought we should hold him back after 2nd grade we would. After the school year ended she told us it would have been a terrible mistake for us to hold him back. He has gone on to graduate from college, and is going for his Master's.

Only hold your child back for learning reason's. Our oldest son was in the first grade and his teacher swore up and down he had ADD. She wanted us to hold him back in the 1st grade. We had him tested at a center, and he did not have ADD. We changed school districts and we explained this to his new teacher. We told her if she thought we should hold him back after 2nd grade we would. After the school year ended she told us it would have been a terrible mistake for us to hold him back. He has gone on to graduate from college, and is going for his Master's.

 

 

So if he was held back he would not have done those things?

I had a late birthday and started early. It never really had any ill effect as I'm one of the biggest kid's who graduated in my class 6'2 210. I never had any problems adjusting, only wish I could have stayed that extra year or two for the sports.

 

I didn't turn 19 until my second month of college. :lol:

 

I'm in the same boat, but I also skipped a grade. I wasn't 18 until October of my FROSH year at Marshall. An extra year would have likely included a state track title or two...

Your really good athletes play up with older kids/teams, they don't depend on being held back to compete.

So if he was held back he would not have done those things?

It was not the correct thing to do for our son, and as his parent's we knew that.

It was not the correct thing to do for our son, and as his parent's we knew that.

 

That is the key. You have to do what is right for your child academically and developmentally.

 

We could not have held our oldest back if we wanted to. He was the type that was bored with school. What I mean by that is, he was the type of kid that couldn't understand going over and over the ABC's in first grade after he had already learned them in Kindergarten. He constantly wanted to move forward and faster than the teaching would allow. He has done great.

Personally I think the best thing to do is just wait an extra year before you start your child in school for academic and maturity reasons 1st of all but if your child becomes involved in athletics then I have seen it prove to be beneficial for kids as they advance thru school.

Once your child has started school I don't believe you hold a kid back soley for athletic reasons. If they are struggling academically then hold them back and do it as early as possible..

Your really good athletes play up with older kids/teams, they don't depend on being held back to compete.

 

No.

 

 

The best basketball player at the middle school level I saw this year was 15 and playing against 8th graders.

Hold them back before they start school. That is what we did.