September 6, 200719 yr Alright guys, its been a LONG time since I've had some girl drama but I've found myself in a confusing situation. I've been dating this girl for about 9 months. For the most part its been a dream come true, occasionally we have some tiffs but nothing major. Well about a month ago we had a real arguement that lasted 3 days. Finally we just agreed to disagree on it and put it behind us.....so I thought. Well she would fall back into for 2 weekends in a row and say she was still mad over it. Well finally I thought we put it behind us...then last tuesday she just up and breaks up with me, says she cant date me anymore, its too hard? Ok so I'm obviously shocked and devastated. Well the next morning I get to work and she's emailed me at 6am saying she's made a huge mistake and wants to work it out. So I happily agree, after all I love her. Well last thursday we go down and watch the Packers and Titans game and had a blast, got a long, came home and all was fine. Friday she goes off to Nashville with her friends for there bachlorette party. We talk friday night, saturday day and night and sunday morning, all is fine, then sunday afternoon she breaks up with me again. Now I know she didnt cheat on me cause thats just not her and my mutual friend who was there would have told me. But she says she just doesnt know what to think cause I'm trying and shes not. So its over.... I get off the phone, stunned but taking it better than the first time. I say to myself "well i guess thats that". About an hr later I get on the computer and change my Myspace and Facebook status to single. NBD? Well I have that tracker and it tells me who looks at my profile. She's looked at it like 5 times since sunday. And her status still says in a relationship and I'm still her number 1 friend. Ok so why is she leaving this? Maybe she hasnt thought to change it? Nope, I talked to the mutual friend last night and she says she was kind of hurt that I changed my status? Why? we are broke up right? Well she hasnt called me and ignored my 2 msgs? So what do you guys think? Should I give her time to think and hope she comes around or should I just try and get over her? It hurts pretty bad but I dont want to keep this wound open any longer than it has to be but I also think she cant be 100% for this break up if shes leaving all her things as in a relationship. It sounds like the argument was not resolved to her satisfaction, and she is trying to get your attention. Was it about commitment and the rings?? At least you emotionally may have an upper hand, so what's it cost to ask her what is her real problem?
September 6, 200719 yr Author Anyone heard that new song by Garth Brooks "More than a Memory", just came on the radio while I was driving, I feel like I just got kicked in the stomach:cry: If anything positive has come of this, my weight has went from 206 to 196:confused:
September 6, 200719 yr You are playing easy to get. Seems to be at the root of most of your problems... Bingo.
September 7, 200719 yr Author Her loss... Thats what everyone keeps saying, that and I could have done better, gonna be a while before I let my gaurd down like that again. Can't keep opening myself to this kind of heartache. I'm just confused and wish I knew what went wrong, sucks that I can't even get an explanation, seems pretty selfish to me
September 7, 200719 yr Thats what everyone keeps saying, that and I could have done better, gonna be a while before I let my gaurd down like that again. Can't keep opening myself to this kind of heartache. I'm just confused and wish I knew what went wrong, sucks that I can't even get an explanation, seems pretty selfish to me Now, the next step is to NOT be on the prowl for another relationship right away. Sometimes the only explanation is no explanation. Now you need to work on defining yourself, so you know what you're looking for in the future. You need to figure out what it is that makes you happy, and then eventually look for someone who compliments that. A relationship shouldn't be your life. It should enhance your life.
September 7, 200719 yr Author Now, the next step is to NOT be on the prowl for another relationship right away. Sometimes the only explanation is no explanation. Now you need to work on defining yourself, so you know what you're looking for in the future. You need to figure out what it is that makes you happy, and then eventually look for someone who compliments that. A relationship shouldn't be your life. It should enhance your life. I have no desire to even look at another girl at this point. Im just confused cause its like I dont have any closure to the situation, it was a random bomb on me. I've known this girl for years and we were friends prior to this, I never thought she was capable of being so cold. I guess you can never really know anyone.
September 7, 200719 yr And get away from this same circle of girls you tend to run with. It's doing you more harm than good...
September 7, 200719 yr Author And get away from this same circle of girls you tend to run with. It's doing you more harm than good... It's not really the same circle, the past 3 girls I've dated dont know each other. Shea's friend that I had the thing with was like 3 1/2 years ago. I dunno, something tells me I havent heard the end of Shea. It doesnt add up.
September 7, 200719 yr It's not really the same circle, the past 3 girls I've dated dont know each other. Shea's friend that I had the thing with was like 3 1/2 years ago. I dunno, something tells me I havent heard the end of Shea. It doesnt add up. You will have an upset stomach for a couple weeks, then think of all the new women...
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