Friends, no. Now spouses of a certain family member....:whistling:

My buddy married a real materialistic U of L fan, she's got like 1 friend, and she's a die hard UK fan. They cleared out a bar one night yelling at each other over UK vs UL :lol2:. She's got a twin who's the nicest person ever, but she's a real witch. We got into cause she "hates how UK fans take city names and call it Catlanta and stuff like they own the place." So I may have said "well I refer to all Italian restaurants as Rick Pitino's 'prostitutes' house"

 

Sooooo she removed me from the wedding party, so I did the passive aggressive thing and RSVP'd yes to their wedding and didn't show up.

 

GO CATS!!!

I get along great with all my close friends' wives/SOs. Some of them might not be easy to get along with, but I've always found ways to relate to folks others found difficult to get along with. I guess I'm fortunate in that regard.

I get along great with all my close friends' wives/SOs. Some of them might not be easy to get along with, but I've always found ways to relate to folks others found difficult to get along with. I guess I'm fortunate in that regard.

 

Same here.

If they are a really good friend you should have an open dialogue with them. That doesn't mean bring it up often or harp on it but it does mean when your bestie is sharing with you, you should have some unique perspectives that he/she needs to consider with their significant other moving forward.

 

That works great, in theory, but I don't think it works well in real life. It's much more likely to drive a wedge between the friendship, or make the friend feel like (s)he has to pick you as a friend, or the spouse.

 

Your best bet? Be cordial to the significant other & keep your mouth shut unless the friend makes it clear that (s)he is looking for input on their relationship.

That works great, in theory, but I don't think it works well in real life. It's much more likely to drive a wedge between the friendship, or make the friend feel like (s)he has to pick you as a friend, or the spouse.

 

Your best bet? Be cordial to the significant other & keep your mouth shut unless the friend makes it clear that (s)he is looking for input on their relationship.

 

I used to feel just like you CC and I am sure if we are going by the book you are right but that's not the way I roll.

 

And being serious, I have hard conversations with friends that arguably are none of my business but I normally find those friends really appreciate me being blunt with them.

I used to feel just like you CC and I am sure if we are going by the book you are right but that's not the way I roll.

 

And being serious, I have hard conversations with friends that arguably are none of my business but I normally find those friends really appreciate me being blunt with them.

 

A lot depends on the friend, as well as the spouse and the reason you don't like the spouse. If it's just because she's a female dog, there is no reason to step up. If it's due to infidelity or something (and I knew it), I'd speak up.