June 26, 20179 yr Lets say you have a buddy that has a substance issue...let's just say alcohol, though could be other substances as well. This issue is seriously affecting their health/life. How do you go about making them aware there's an issue and they need to change what they are doing or get some help?
June 26, 20179 yr Lets say you have a buddy that has a substance issue...let's just say alcohol, though could be other substances as well. This issue is seriously affecting their health/life. How do you go about making them aware there's an issue and they need to change what they are doing or get some help? I went straight to them and told them they have a problem with alcohol and that their life would never be normal until they admit it and get help.
June 26, 20179 yr Author I went straight to them and told them they have a problem with alcohol and that their life would never be normal until they admit it and get help. And...what happened?
June 26, 20179 yr And...what happened? It took about 7 years but finally he took my advice. Recently got out of an inpatient treatment center and has been doing better than ever.
June 27, 20179 yr Wife and her sisters had a sit down with another sister about her spending habits. Does that count?
June 27, 20179 yr Author Wife and her sisters had a sit down with another sister about her spending habits. Does that count? Same realm I guess. So how did that talk go?
June 27, 20179 yr Unless you're around the person all the time, or it's a close family member, it's hard to really know if the person has a problem IMO. Obviously there are other signs (trouble with the law, losing jobs, missing appointments, etc.), but absent of those things it's hard to know for sure IMO.
June 27, 20179 yr Same realm I guess. So how did that talk go? Not real well from what I heard. I stayed away from that meeting. Denial and telling the ones trying to help they were being judgmental. You would think after losing a house she would be open to suggestions from those that love her.
June 27, 20179 yr I think that you can tell a person that they have a substance abuse problem, but nothing will happen unless the person has a reason to get help. For example, if you told this person that you do not care to spend time with them and that you are losing respect for their choices, that could hit home. Or if the husband/wife tells the spouse that they don't trust the other partner with the children, that could also hit home. If family members, siblings and parents, say that they do not want the abuser to visit or come to family gatherings, that could also be tough to hear and make a difference.
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