Being a former coach myself I would like to say thank you for all of your hard work and dedication. Whatever happened to the "yes sir and yes ma'am" mentality? Coaching is becoming tougher and tougher especially the way society is changing. When I first got involved in sports a long time ago parents and players respected their coach and their decisions no matter what. I am not saying this is the exact way it should be but I am saying that this is a dying tradition. It is now evolving into something that quite frankly is becoming scary especially with all the technology and social media. It not is only tough for the coaches but I imagine for the players as well. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to grow up into todays world. But this is why coaches are even more important to the kids they coach now. Coaching truly is a great opportunity to use the game you love to teach the game of life. I think people get so caught in winning and losing that they forget what sports really do for people. I am sure we all have that coach or mentor that we will always remember and be greatful for. They are probably the reason we chose the careers we chose and do the things that we do.

 

So Coaches please remember that we are molding and helping to build a road map and moral compass for these young people we coach. Continue to teach, guide, and love these kids trying to make them the best they can be and prepare them for success in life.

 

Parents I know you may not agree with the coaches decision all of the time but please remember they are doing what they feel is best for your son or daugther and the team. It is easy to get caught up in the web of my child should be playing more or to get on a website and blast other kids and the coaches. Maybe try talking with the coach and your child.

 

I don't mean to be on a soap box but I noticed that there a lot of comments about coaches and what they should or should not do. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and I understand that. Its easy to complain and say "you should do this or do that and the team will be better" its human nature. But to all those coahces, teachers, mentors, and parents who are doing a great job and building a positive future for our youth thank you! Continue doing what you do.

Excellent post.:thumb:

Being a former coach myself I would like to say thank you for all of your hard work and dedication. Whatever happened to the "yes sir and yes ma'am" mentality? Coaching is becoming tougher and tougher especially the way society is changing. When I first got involved in sports a long time ago parents and players respected their coach and their decisions no matter what. I am not saying this is the exact way it should be but I am saying that this is a dying tradition. It is now evolving into something that quite frankly is becoming scary especially with all the technology and social media. It not is only tough for the coaches but I imagine for the players as well. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to grow up into todays world. But this is why coaches are even more important to the kids they coach now. Coaching truly is a great opportunity to use the game you love to teach the game of life. I think people get so caught in winning and losing that they forget what sports really do for people. I am sure we all have that coach or mentor that we will always remember and be greatful for. They are probably the reason we chose the careers we chose and do the things that we do.

 

 

 

So Coaches please remember that we are molding and helping to build a road map and moral compass for these young people we coach. Continue to teach, guide, and love these kids trying to make them the best they can be and prepare them for success in life.

 

Parents I know you may not agree with the coaches decision all of the time but please remember they are doing what they feel is best for your son or daugther and the team. It is easy to get caught up in the web of my child should be playing more or to get on a website and blast other kids and the coaches. Maybe try talking with the coach and your child.

 

I don't mean to be on a soap box but I noticed that there a lot of comments about coaches and what they should or should not do. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and I understand that. Its easy to complain and say "you should do this or do that and the team will be better" its human nature. But to all those coahces, teachers, mentors, and parents who are doing a great job and building a positive future for our youth thank you! Continue doing what you do.

 

Very well said! :thumb:

Being a former coach myself I would like to say thank you for all of your hard work and dedication. Whatever happened to the "yes sir and yes ma'am" mentality? Coaching is becoming tougher and tougher especially the way society is changing. When I first got involved in sports a long time ago parents and players respected their coach and their decisions no matter what. I am not saying this is the exact way it should be but I am saying that this is a dying tradition. It is now evolving into something that quite frankly is becoming scary especially with all the technology and social media. It not is only tough for the coaches but I imagine for the players as well. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to grow up into todays world. But this is why coaches are even more important to the kids they coach now. Coaching truly is a great opportunity to use the game you love to teach the game of life. I think people get so caught in winning and losing that they forget what sports really do for people. I am sure we all have that coach or mentor that we will always remember and be greatful for. They are probably the reason we chose the careers we chose and do the things that we do.

 

So Coaches please remember that we are molding and helping to build a road map and moral compass for these young people we coach. Continue to teach, guide, and love these kids trying to make them the best they can be and prepare them for success in life.

 

Parents I know you may not agree with the coaches decision all of the time but please remember they are doing what they feel is best for your son or daugther and the team. It is easy to get caught up in the web of my child should be playing more or to get on a website and blast other kids and the coaches. Maybe try talking with the coach and your child.

 

I don't mean to be on a soap box but I noticed that there a lot of comments about coaches and what they should or should not do. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and I understand that. Its easy to complain and say "you should do this or do that and the team will be better" its human nature. But to all those coahces, teachers, mentors, and parents who are doing a great job and building a positive future for our youth thank you! Continue doing what you do.

 

Great post, I only disagree with one point. Not a fan of the parents talking to coaches (assuming we are talking HS level). I think it is important for the kids to develop that maturity to find out their strengths and weaknesses by going to the coaches themselves. Most of the time it is not the kid with issues about playing time, they are at every practice, they know where they stand. It is about the parents who think little Johnny is better than little Tommy.

By the way, thanks fro your time on the sidelines. I'm sure those that played for you learned a lot about the game and about life.

Great post, I only disagree with one point. Not a fan of the parents talking to coaches (assuming we are talking HS level). I think it is important for the kids to develop that maturity to find out their strengths and weaknesses by going to the coaches themselves. Most of the time it is not the kid with issues about playing time, they are at every practice, they know where they stand. It is about the parents who think little Johnny is better than little Tommy.

By the way, thanks fro your time on the sidelines. I'm sure those that played for you learned a lot about the game and about life.

 

I think it depends on how the parents talk to the coaches. I only spoke to my son's coach once about my son and I honestly didn't want to speak to him but it was something that needed to be done and I eventually felt like it helped my son's relationship with his coach. I absolutely loved my son's coach and I look forward to him coaching my next child. It may have helped that I feel the coach and I had a great relationship before I had to talk to the coach about my son but again I feel like the talk we had helped everyone in the long run. If everyone has the same goal in mind(complete team success in all aspects) then talking should not be an issue. I know some coaches absolutely will not talk to parents and I don't blame them but I don't believe all talks between coaches and parents are a bad thing.

Great thread goldenboy. I'll go a step farther. I wish parents could accept their sons/daughters for what they are. I've never understood what some parents see. I also wish we could go back to the old ways (or at least what it seemed like when I was a student-athlete) and the parent simply says "then just work harder". That just doesn't happen much anymore, sadly.

 

I'd personally like to thank Coach Randy Anderson, from Boyd County. He has had a profound impact on my son, on and off the court. I don't know how much more we can expect as parents.

I think the both of you made an excellent point. TAC you are absolutely 100% correct the young man should talk to the coach first face to face. Face to Face Commuication would be a skill that I would incorporate into my practice plans. Kids now days really are having a tough time commucationg with others in person. Also to Purplerpride2's point I have always gave the parents a voice. My rules concerning parents were that as long as it wasn't before a game, during a game, or after a game we could meet and talk. Also if there was going to be a meeting concerning a player the player needed to be present. We could talk about how the player could get better and possibly get more playing time. We did not discuss other players or my coaching. I also invited parents to practice as long as they were not disrupting it. Its amazing what happens when a parent sees their kid and realizes maybe he or she is not the best player.

I agree with TAC on the kid talking to the coach, not the parents. I'm not against parents talking to coaches just not about playing time. That's the kids responsibility to see what he/she needs to work on to get more PT. The problem today is the parents bash the coach in front of the kid and then when their frustration isn't working they run to the AD, the school board, and want the coaches head on a platter. These parents are messing with coaches careers that put food on their table and parents want them tossed out like Sundays newspaper. At what point does a coach say enough is enough and steps down because its not worth it? Starting to see it now with the coaching carrousel we are seeing today.

Its amazing what happens when a parent sees their kid and realizes maybe he or she is not the best player.

 

It's more amazing that they don't.

I fully agree we should ALWAYS thank those men and women who put in the time to coach.

 

However, I must have grown up in a different neighborhood than some of you. Players and parents complaining about coaches was hardly a rare event back then. It's just that we now hear of it more OR we actually SEE it online.

For the record, I spoke to the coach the day before a game and it had nothing to do with playing time. My kid played the whole game.

 

Truthfully, it wasn't even a complaint and based on the results of that quick conversation I feel it was the right thing to do. I'd do it again if needed. And again, I think the fact that I had a great relationship with the coach already helped make that conversation easier. I will always love Coach Steve Adams and I pray he is at Boyle County for at least 5 more years.

 

However, I must have grown up in a different neighborhood than some of you. Players and parents complaining about coaches was hardly a rare event back then. It's just that we now hear of it more OR we actually SEE it online.

 

Probably truer than we all would like to fondly remember.