Since you seem to know so much, you must be close to the situation. Why don't you fill us all in....

 

Not really. Just giving my opinion based on what I have read and based on what I have heard.

Nuff said.

 

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I have no knowledge of what happened in this particular situation. I do however agree with Coach Murphy's quote.

 

Bottom line from a coaching perspective, as a coach you not only have a responsibility to teach the game and the fundamentals of the game but to also teach life lessons and instill discipline to your players. Unfortunately, as a coach, the biggest issue always seems to be with the parent aspect. Your typical parent (not all parents) always see the good in their child and ignore the bad. Again, not wanting to group all parents in this category, but most of the parents if asked to keep the scorebook, would score a hit for their daughter when it should have been ruled an error. This is why as a coach it is always smart to keep parents at arms length. Now this brings me back to the life lesson's and discipline part of the coaching responsibility. IMO, the player that is deemed "uncoachable" usually doesn't have the structure or discipline in their personal life. This player typically comes from a family that has parents that always question any supervision their child gets. They will question playing time, they will question strategy and they will even question the grade their child gets. This is the same parent who says the reason my daughter has detention or failed a test is because the teacher doesn't like him/her.

 

This is what Coach Murphy was referring to in his quote. This type of parenting is setting your child up for failure down the road. In MOST cases, the reason your child failed a test or got detention is because she didn't study or misbehaved. It has NOTHING to do with your child's teacher disliking them. If your child has a question about playing time or anything else related to sports, have THEM approach the coach and ask what she can to do to get more playing time. But as a parent, the LAST thing you should do is talk about the coach behind the scenes with other parents or even worse with your child. Let them learn the best way to deal with adversity is to face it head on. At the high school level, your child is old enough that you shouldn't fight their battles nor should you want to. Allow them to mature and learn life lessons. They will become better players, teammates and people down the road.

 

Now I know nothing about this particular situation, however if 10 players and 3 coaches left a program, it seems to me that something is seriously wrong with the program and the AD should look into it. But without knowing the circumstances, I don't know what to think. All I know is I feel sorry for the kids that are involved.

I have no knowledge of what happened in this particular situation. I do however agree with Coach Murphy's quote.

 

Bottom line from a coaching perspective, as a coach you not only have a responsibility to teach the game and the fundamentals of the game but to also teach life lessons and instill discipline to your players. Unfortunately, as a coach, the biggest issue always seems to be with the parent aspect. Your typical parent (not all parents) always see the good in their child and ignore the bad. Again, not wanting to group all parents in this category, but most of the parents if asked to keep the scorebook, would score a hit for their daughter when it should have been ruled an error. This is why as a coach it is always smart to keep parents at arms length. Now this brings me back to the life lesson's and discipline part of the coaching responsibility. IMO, the player that is deemed "uncoachable" usually doesn't have the structure or discipline in their personal life. This player typically comes from a family that has parents that always question any supervision their child gets. They will question playing time, they will question strategy and they will even question the grade their child gets. This is the same parent who says the reason my daughter has detention or failed a test is because the teacher doesn't like him/her.

 

This is what Coach Murphy was referring to in his quote. This type of parenting is setting your child up for failure down the road. In MOST cases, the reason your child failed a test or got detention is because she didn't study or misbehaved. It has NOTHING to do with your child's teacher disliking them. If your child has a question about playing time or anything else related to sports, have THEM approach the coach and ask what she can to do to get more playing time. But as a parent, the LAST thing you should do is talk about the coach behind the scenes with other parents or even worse with your child. Let them learn the best way to deal with adversity is to face it head on. At the high school level, your child is old enough that you shouldn't fight their battles nor should you want to. Allow them to mature and learn life lessons. They will become better players, teammates and people down the road.

 

Now I know nothing about this particular situation, however if 10 players and 3 coaches left a program, it seems to me that something is seriously wrong with the program and the AD should look into it. But without knowing the circumstances, I don't know what to think. All I know is I feel sorry for the kids that are involved.

 

:ylsuper: There are "life lessons" to be learned in whatever sport you coach......Ambition, Teamwork, Reliability, Discipline, Sacrifice, Loyalty, Self-Confidence, etc........Wins and losses will come and go, but producing players that win in the game of Life matter much more.