Question on how to handle a coach situation

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    Good to hear
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    Work hard young man. Keep the communication line open. Do not rely on texts or emails or gossip.

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    Several thoughts/comments;
    1. It sounds like all these accusations and stories/events are coming solely from the opinion of the boy.
    2. Have any other adults witnessed these events to be true? Is the "boy" in fact performing at the level he says he is?

    So, my question/input, since this is baseball, can the parent or an unbiased person attend practice, whether from a close or at a distance, to observe what is taking place at practice to provide input to the situation. If it comes down to what the player thinks vs. what the coach says/thinks, usually coach will win.

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    Coach has a problem with the kid or his family and he’s a loser who shouldn’t be coaching youth sports.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cooperdad View Post
    I talked to the Dad last night. From what he said, the son "talked to the coach". I didn't get the impression that it was a 1 on 1 discussion but more like standing next to each other in the dugout type of thing....

    The dad said that things have gotten better now that they are out on the field. Seems his son is proving himself a bit with hitting and base-running during inter-team scrimmages, so that is good.

    He did also say his son was under the impression that one of the assistant coaches may have talked to the head coach privately about the situation (but didn't get told anything specific to back this theory up).

    I don't know if this story is over or not but will keep you posted if I get anything additional as the season starts. For now though it looks like the situation has cooled and success on the field is improving the situation.
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    Work hard young man. Keep the communication line open. Do not rely on texts or emails or gossip.
    Quote Originally Posted by BehindTheLine View Post
    Several thoughts/comments;
    1. It sounds like all these accusations and stories/events are coming solely from the opinion of the boy.
    2. Have any other adults witnessed these events to be true? Is the "boy" in fact performing at the level he says he is?

    So, my question/input, since this is baseball, can the parent or an unbiased person attend practice, whether from a close or at a distance, to observe what is taking place at practice to provide input to the situation. If it comes down to what the player thinks vs. what the coach says/thinks, usually coach will win.
    Quote Originally Posted by Wireman View Post
    Coach has a problem with the kid or his family and he’s a loser who shouldn’t be coaching youth sports.
    Sounds to me like some people overreacted and took something a kid said as fact. Based off everything said the player had been a starter. New coach comes in and has a clean slate for everyone. Meaning just because you started last year doesn't mean you automatically start this year. You have to earn your spot every day, every year. Sounds like this player maybe wasn't performing that well early with the new coach and others were performing better. Who is to say this player didn't get mouthy and a attitude with the new coach when he realize that his spot wasnt just going to be given to him. Who is to say the kid truly wasn't performing well.


    Now that they have been on the field more as stated he has started performing better and now saying things are better. Sure sounds like to me a kid was just upset because he wasn't handed his spot back right away and wasn't performing to earn it. So people were quick to blame a new coach and just believe the words of an upset player who thought he may lose his spot and possibly over exaggerated some things.

    This thread and some of these post in this thread are way off base imo and seems to be an unfair attack on a coach seeing how this developed. Every year should be a clean slate where players have to earn their spots again, that is how it should be for all coaches. If it's not then its not fair for kids who maybe got better in the off season and possibly better than the starter from the year before.

    Imo this thread should be closed, because sounds like some may have tried to paint a bad picture of a coach for no reason. Especially when the people it's coming from is an upset player and friends on the team who thought he may have lost his spot, so good chance things were over exaggerated.

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    ^ your scenario is as good as any but all of it is just speculation because we really don't know what was/is happening. We've only heard third- and fourth-hand info.

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    Hope this isn't a case of an adult throwing his weight around. As for the kid what I teach mine is the only thing you can control is your effort and your attitude, be on point with those. Life isn't always fair....

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    @futurecoach If any of this from post 1 is actually true, it's unacceptable behavior by a coach. Whether it's exactly true or not is another discussion:

    1. The boy is singled out at every practice and yelled at even when what he did was correct. Other boys make errors and are not barked at, but this particular boy gets dressed down by the head coach every time.

    2. When batting in the cage, the boy is ignored by the coach. When the boy asked the coach for help with his batting the coach says that he isn't going to change anything now...the boy is simply the weakest batter on the team (even though he had the top batting average the year prior).

    3. The boy has been told by the coach that he is only on the team because he was on the team prior years and would be cut otherwise.

    4. The coach has been vocal about promoting other boys who are not as talented (but have parents in his ear) but appears to be intentionally doing all he can to make this other boy quit.

    5. If parents go to the coach about situations (like this) the boys are penalized with extra running during practice.

    - Some of the situations I have been told have been borderline Bullying and Harassment towards this boy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wireman View Post
    @futurecoach If any of this from post 1 is actually true, it's unacceptable behavior by a coach. Whether it's exactly true or not is another discussion:

    1. The boy is singled out at every practice and yelled at even when what he did was correct. Other boys make errors and are not barked at, but this particular boy gets dressed down by the head coach every time.

    2. When batting in the cage, the boy is ignored by the coach. When the boy asked the coach for help with his batting the coach says that he isn't going to change anything now...the boy is simply the weakest batter on the team (even though he had the top batting average the year prior).

    3. The boy has been told by the coach that he is only on the team because he was on the team prior years and would be cut otherwise.

    4. The coach has been vocal about promoting other boys who are not as talented (but have parents in his ear) but appears to be intentionally doing all he can to make this other boy quit.

    5. If parents go to the coach about situations (like this) the boys are penalized with extra running during practice.

    - Some of the situations I have been told have been borderline Bullying and Harassment towards this boy.
    Agreed and if any and all of that is not true and it's just a player overexaggerating things. Then that is not fair to the coach that, that rap about him may stay around for years or even cost him his job.

    So you nor I know the truth. What we do know is somehow things aren't as bad now, and apparently the kid isn't complaining as much. All this coming at the same time that they got outside and he got a chance to prove himself more. It's funny how that works, once the kid does better and possibly has his spot back. The complaining about the coach stops. So neither one of us really know. But imo this seems like a classic case of player got his feelings hurt because he wasn't handed the starting spot with the new coach right away.

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    Talked to thr father as well as several other parents and it does sound like the team is a bit of a mess. Everything I spoke of prior has been substantiated by other players and parents who have been at practices and the few games.

    They haven’t had a chance to play many games so my assumption it the coach is still trying to figure things out but the stories I am hearing....

    At least the coach isn’t directly degrading my friend’s son any longer. He hasn’t played much but it is early (ie only a couple late inning inserts).

    I am hoping that the weather holds out so I can catch a game this weekend and see for myself is some of the other stories are true. Till then I am going to hold back comments so as to not destroy the coach.

    If it would be better to close this thread, feel free..... I just wanted to state that it appears this isn’t just some boy whining, but rather more to it.

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